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- 1. He is unable to control his emotions.
- 2. He doesn’t read your emotions without words.
- 3. He has no friends
- 4. He is always deadpan
- 5. His emotional displays are out of place.
- 6. He avoids people who need psychological support.
- 7. He doesn’t know how to express empathy
- 8. He doesn’t understand the tone of your voice.
- 9. He has no control over his voice
- 10. Movies and books with a dramatic plot do not touch him.
- 11. He believes that emotions and feelings are given too much importance.
- 12. He is indifferent to dogs
Your new friend is smart, well-read, educated. He cannot be accused of a lack of intelligence. However, he may have his disadvantage in an equally important area of uXNUMXbuXNUMXbemotions. It is impossible to build a close relationship with such a person in which both parties are able to understand each other without words. How to identify such a person, says psychologist Ronald Riggio.
People with high emotional intelligence are able to listen and feel their neighbors, recognize their emotions well, understand their intentions, motivations and desires. It is with such a person that the chances of building a truly deep and stable relationship are high. Conversely, if your partner’s emotional intelligence is low, get ready for the fact that it will be difficult for you to find empathy and respect for you from his side. Psychologists pay attention to 12 signals that a person cannot boast of high emotional intelligence.
1. He is unable to control his emotions.
People who are able to understand others well tend to cope with their own negative emotions. If any little thing can provoke your friend (girlfriend) to vent irritation on others, then most likely they are not inclined to tolerance and the ability to accept people as they are in other vital situations.
2. He doesn’t read your emotions without words.
The ability to see and correctly interpret the signals of our state, which we give to the interlocutor without words: facial expressions, gestures, postures, is an important component of emotional intelligence. If your partner, without your explanations, is not able to determine what is uncomfortable for you now and you may need to show his attention: warm words, hugs, then it will be difficult for you to build a trusting emotional connection with him.
3. He has no friends
Emotionally intelligent people inspire affection and trust. As a rule, they are surrounded by friends with whom they maintain and maintain relationships. If your acquaintance does not have close contacts and complains that he is not appreciated at work and that he does not develop relationships with colleagues, this also hints at his inability to give emotionally.
4. He is always deadpan
Not only the ability to read other people’s emotions, but also the ability to sincerely express them yourself turns out to be an important component of emotional intelligence. If in communication with a person it is always difficult for you to guess what he feels at the moment (especially if you usually read other people’s emotions well), then, most likely, inner sensitivity is not the strongest side of your interlocutor.
The manifestation of sadness and internal breakdown scares people with low emotional intelligence
5. His emotional displays are out of place.
He cracked a joke at a funeral, in a circle of people not in the mood for fun. She tells stories that no one seems witty, and listeners endure only out of decorum. No, they do not seek to offend or be intrusive, they simply do not feel how others perceive them.
6. He avoids people who need psychological support.
The manifestation of sadness and inner breakdown scares people with low emotional intelligence. They do not know how to behave and prefer to avoid such meetings.
7. He doesn’t know how to express empathy
Often the state of depression of another person is simply not read by them. Even if in the end he realizes that the other is bad, he is not able to show warmth and sympathy. In most cases, he does not feel such a need, but even if he would like to say something, he does not know what exactly.
8. He doesn’t understand the tone of your voice.
We also convey information about our emotional state through the intonation of speech. If your loved one, talking to you on the phone and not seeing you, is not able to catch your irritation or, on the contrary, a feeling of joy, this also characterizes him as a person who is not inclined to notice your feelings.
9. He has no control over his voice
Sometimes too expansive and loud expression of emotions — positive or negative — means that a person is poorly aware and in control of his internal states. This, in turn, turns out to be a manifestation of low empathy.
10. Movies and books with a dramatic plot do not touch him.
Art that involves empathy often leaves such people indifferent. He is unlikely to share your emotions about the film that affected you, which you watched together. And this applies to any genre.
Such people claim that emotions are harmful and promote equanimity.
11. He believes that emotions and feelings are given too much importance.
People with low emotional intelligence are still aware that their ability to empathize and connect emotionally with others is low. They try to challenge the importance of emotions by promoting equanimity, the ability to be logical and act according to reason alone, as the most advantageous human qualities. You should not follow their lead: emotions are the most important part of our relationships, they are also necessary in order to make effective decisions.
12. He is indifferent to dogs
Your dog can be an indicator of how high your partner’s emotional intelligence is. Dogs are one of the most social pets, openly showing the full range of feelings and emotions. If a person does not guess the condition of your pet and completely ignores the signs that the dog gives, consider that this is some kind of warning from a four-legged friend.