Contact with a toxic person, whether it is your relative or a colleague from work, can be very harmful to your health. Therefore, it is necessary to know how to conduct such communication correctly.
After a month of such contact, brain neurons can be damaged, which worsens its work, and it will be impossible to restore neural connections. But how to be? After all, we can not always get away from toxic contact. For example, if the mother has such a character, and in some situations it is impossible to minimize communication. Or at work there is a toxic colleague with whom it is impossible to communicate, but the person does not want to leave work, because he likes it here and is generally quite comfortable. In such a situation, you need to try to distance yourself, or transfer authority in this communication to another person, for example, hire a mother of a medical worker who will visit her and look after her. This is not always possible, so giving advice to “leave without looking back” is rather presumptuous. Back to the distancing method
How to use?
This method eliminates the negative impact of toxic contact. It is important to remember that the most important thing that fuels a toxic person is our emotional energy. If you reduce the amount of energy shown or eliminate emotionality altogether, then you can, if not completely eliminate the harm of communication, then at least mitigate it. Try to consciously control your emotions. There are also a number of small but extremely important rules:
- First, don’t complain about your circumstances to a toxic person. Solve problems yourself, or contact a specialist or a loved one. Everything you say will soon be used against you.
- You should not borrow from such a person, even if he himself offers his help. In the future, you will have to repay this debt with interest, moreover, there is a risk of remaining in the understanding of your toxic benefactor as a debtor for the rest of your life.
- Don’t get into arguments, even if the toxic person has inappropriate ideas or conjectures. He does this on purpose to provoke you into a quarrel and contradiction. The person will drag you into an argument so quickly that you won’t even notice it.
- Use “timing” when dealing with a toxic person. Dose the time spent next to him. If for some reason you need to have a meeting and dialogue, immediately designate for yourself a time period after which the communication will be interrupted. “I will visit my wife’s parents for exactly 45 minutes and will not spend another minute there.” You are programming your brain for protection during these 45 minutes, after the time is up the carriage will turn into a pumpkin, so don’t stay too long.
- Never discuss third parties with a toxic person, even if you really want to talk about topical issues. Such a person will surely retell your dialogue with him to the one about whom it was discussed. And it is you who will become the slanderer.
These simple rules must be observed. You can support such a person, communicate with him, but in no case feed him with your energy, this will make it worse for both you and him.