Sometimes this interesting thought comes to mind: “Children need to be taken care of. The child needs to be developed, the child needs to be educated!” “That’s right, but in the name of what, what do we want to get as a result?” For our child to develop all his inclinations and abilities? Or more simply: so that our child is no worse than others and at the same time does not overwork? Or maybe just to keep us out of the way? The direction of upbringing is set once consciously, more often unconsciously, usually by templates, less often by the goals of upbringing. Let’s think about our goals together with you when we develop and educate our children!
However, we talk about the goals of upbringing and development when we are in a reasonable and conscious state. How often do we find ourselves in this state? When parents, that is, just young people and girls, live in their usual way, that is, without thinking, being in a low-conscious state, they do not raise children, they simply live next to them and simply relate to them somehow. How? In different ways … Sometimes they get rid of children, take revenge on children, discharge on children, and sometimes they give children an example of cheerfulness, positive, love, creative attitude to life. If you do not know how to raise children, you do not need to do this. Just live with the children, communicate with them more, be friends with the children, and you will do the best that you can for them. If you do this with joy and soul, you will still grow up a well-mannered child, although you did not set this as a special goal.
At the same time, a well-bred child is still better than an ill-bred one. Ill-bred children are wild children who live by their own desires and perceive everyone around them as something that they can use or that they need to fight against. On the contrary, an elementarily brought up child is already an adequate being and rather useful than harmful. Yes, he is still a child, but at least he is a well-mannered child.
A well-bred child is a minimum educational task. This is good, but not enough. And what is the task for advanced parents, for those who want and can do more?
As a rule, good parents want to raise children, first of all, healthy physically and mentally, developed (sports, culture, education, and still more than the school curriculum), smart (free, lively and accurate thinking), decent (respecting other people, caring not only about themselves), happy, creative and disciplined, ready to face the difficulties of life and capable of doing big life projects in life.
This can be formulated more simply: it is the task of raising an adult from a child. And specific indicators are to raise an ideal employee from a child. An ideal employee is not just a thinking, disciplined and responsible person, he is a creative and initiative person, a leader and manager who can be entrusted with a project in the certainty that he will take it upon himself and do everything. And if you know how to educate employees, you now know how to educate children, and you do not have a separation between family and work. You treat employees at work like beloved children, and treat your children like adults and responsible employees.
Setting the tasks of study and development, attentive parents are attentive to three things: 1) to what is in demand in life, 2) to the inclinations and abilities of the child, and 3) to what the child himself wants. The wiser the parents, the more often they set precisely such priorities: first, what life requires, after taking into account what ours are more capable of, and lastly, what the child wants. Why is that? Because with smart parents, the child will be carried away by exactly what he is more capable of and what is most promising in life.
But all this is a minimum task. More confident parents who are willing to invest in their children set more ambitious goals. Their task is to raise a child who will be ahead of them. Ahead first of all in terms of the level of culture: your child will be a more educated person than you, he will have wider erudition and deeper knowledge in areas that are important for his future. He will have better manners than you, your daughter will be even more feminine than mom, and your son will be more masculine than dad. Your children in comparison with you will be even more collected and purposeful people, and at the same time even more mentally stable and happy. Yes?
And the best parents can set themselves the maximum task. This is more than raising a child into a well-mannered adult, more than giving a child happiness, health and life prospects. The maximum task in education is to raise children in such a way that they themselves raise children who will be the same. And not just the same, but who will raise such children, who will raise such children … — and so on.
We emphasize that one of the biggest and most important tasks is:
Raise a child in such a way that he sets himself the task of raising his child to be a healthy, caring, creative, happy person — and that his child’s child sets himself the same task!!
Children raised by you should continue the idea of education according to your canons. Then — grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc. The system must reproduce itself. Otherwise, the project «Child» is short-term, just for one life. The real project «Child» should develop into the project «Dynasty».