How do our internet users do it?

To the question: How often do you have sex? – more than half of men and women declared that once a week or more – this is the result of the TvoiLokony survey conducted on the MedTvoiLokony website, which was attended by over 130 thousand. Internet users.

It is worse with the quality of this intercourse. Fewer than half of women experience an orgasm at each intercourse. The unawareness of the partner’s satisfaction is disturbing. Almost every second woman declared that her partner did not know that she was not having an orgasm. Interestingly, almost a third of men indicated similar concerns.

– For us Poles, when talking about sex, jokes are the best – says sexologist prof. Zbigniew Izdebski. And it is hardly surprising, because nobody teaches us how to talk about this – after all, an essential sphere of life -. Meanwhile, sexuality is not only related to human physiology, but also to personality development, communication and love. That is why I believe that, just as we learn biology or history at school, we should learn about our sexuality in an objective and worldview independent way. At every stage of education, appropriate to age, it is worth providing students with information on this field, also enriching their vocabulary in this field.

It’s easier to fantasize than to talk

As the survey shows, although we fantasize about sex a lot, we realize our fantasies much less often, and even less often we talk about sex. It is easier to fantasize than to talk – says prof. Zbigniew Izdebski. – But it’s good that we fantasize – she adds. – This shows the area of ​​our potential in the sphere of sex, at least in thinking. It must be remembered, however, that not all fantasies can be realized, and not even all of them need to be realized.

Ladies with fewer partners

Men admit to having more sexual partners in their lives. Every second Internet user claims to have had more than three sexual partners. Every third lady also boasted about this result. Every fourth person who took part in the survey had only one partner. Every third Internet user admits to having one partner.

Unprofessional gentlemen

Both the fair sex and the ugly sex masturbate, but men do it more often. Far more men than women expose themselves without any problems during sexual contact. This may be because women have more complexes about their appearance. Gentlemen, however, have complexes about their member. Every fourth thinks they are too small. However, it is they who initiate sexual relations more often. Women do it three times less often. Perhaps because men think about sex more often. Sex films are often watched by six times more men than women.

Internet users believe that sex with the same partner can be attractive despite the passage of time. However, almost half of men and women think about a different sexual object during intercourse.

How is sex with women …

Almost 70% of Internet users admit to masturbating, but only 9% do it freely in the presence of their partner. And although 80% say that they enjoy having sex with the same partner, over 40% declare that they sometimes think about someone else during intercourse.

The surveyed women often think about sex. As many as 80% have erotic dreams and the same number – fantasies related to sex. Even so, they don’t grow it very often. The survey shows that 50% of women have intercourse once a week, a third once a month, and the rest less frequently. In addition, only 30% experience an orgasm during each intercourse.

Orgasm is healthy

Unsatisfied women are reluctant to talk to their partner about it. As many as 40% of respondents claim that their partner does not know that they are not having an orgasm.

– Women are ready to have unsatisfied sex in order to maintain a good relationship with their partner. Many live in relationships without paying attention to the quality of their sex life. They seek advice only when something in the relationship begins to fail, when the sense of security related to the possibility of losing a partner is disturbed – says the sexologist, MD. med. Ewa Zarudzka.

The indications of women in the MedTvoiLokony survey showed that every fifth interviewed Internet user masturbates often, and every second occasionally. Women who are not in permanent relationships admit it more often, but also married women say that they do it sometimes. – Orgasm is healthy – urologists say, because it is an excellent prevention of urinary incontinence. – If it were possible to prescribe it, I would recommend every patient – says urologist Dr. Jan Karol Wolski. – It is also an excellent exercise of the perineal muscles – adds urologist Dr. Janusz Zajda.

You have to try

Women don’t care about the quality of their sex life. More than half of the respondents admit that they sometimes think about something other than sex during intercourse. They most often love in bed. Only 15% declare that they do it in different places. One in four engages only in vaginal sex. Non-married women use a variety of positions more often. 60% of women do not use any gadgets and only 17% visit sex shops. Only 10% watch erotic movies frequently.

Although 90% of the respondents claimed to have erotic fantasies, only 10% do them frequently. Women living in free relationships do it more often. Only one in four tells about their fantasies to their partner. Women are also not particularly “relaxed” in bed. Only 60% declare that they can undress in front of their partners with pleasure, and every third does not enjoy it, especially since only 23% of women fully accept their appearance.

Unfortunately, only 40% talk openly to their partner about their expectations in the sphere of sex. Meanwhile, as sexologists say, successful sex helps establish an emotional bond and makes the relationship permanent. – From the point of view of sexology, sexual drive and behavior are the most important when it comes to creating a lasting emotional bond between two people and maintaining it – says sexologist Dr. Wiesław Czernikiewicz.

A doctor may be of assistance

Women do not seek help from sexologists. – Many women give up the possibility of getting help and do not solve their bed problems. These worsen over time, and the only cure for all evil turns out to be parting – often extremely painful – says the sexologist, MD. med. Ewa Zarudzka. They also rarely ask for help from a gynecologist.

Unfortunately, only 60% regularly visit a gynecological office, and as many as 20% have not been there for over 2 years. This is even more surprising, as nearly 40% experience discomfort due to insufficient vaginal lubrication, and almost half have genital tract infections. – Vaginal dryness can cause painful intercourse. Contrary to popular belief, the problem does not only concern menopausal women. Fortunately, it can be treated – says gynecologist Dr. Jacek Tulimowski. However, in order to eliminate the problem, you need to see a doctor.

Less than 30% of the surveyed women experience a mismatch due to the size of the genitals. Only 60% of women feel well protected against unwanted pregnancies, and every third is not convinced of the method of contraception they use.

And how is it in men …

Almost 40% of men admitted problems with erection or maintaining an erection in an online survey on MedTvoiLokony. Only 35% have full control over the duration of intercourse, and more than 17% ejaculate before their partner reaches orgasm.

More than half of the respondents make love once a week or more, and only less than 18% less than once a month. Unfortunately, every fifth respondent does not experience orgasm during each intercourse.

Actions, not words

As many as 95% of men watch erotic movies, but half of them never do it with their partner. 90% have erotic dreams, even more fantasies. And although the vast majority, as many as 70%, fulfill these fantasies (often or sometimes), only 30% tell their partner about them. It is still difficult for men to talk about their sexual needs and dreams. Only every second person openly says what he expects. As much as 90% of the surveyed men masturbate. 40% do it often, 50% sometimes. As many as 36% can do it in the presence of their partner. Men also have no problem exposing themselves to their partner. Only 5% never does.

They fall asleep after …

The survey results show that men are reluctant to visit escort agencies. Every tenth respondent does it. As many as 85% say that they enjoy having sex with the same partner despite the passage of time. Despite this, more than half of them happen to think about someone else during intercourse. Every second man falls asleep right after intercourse. Gentlemen don’t go to sex shops. Only 8% do it willingly and with interest. Over 60% never use any gadgets

Macho without satisfaction

Every fifth respondent does not experience orgasm during each intercourse and, interestingly, almost 30% say that their partner does not know about it. 28% of respondents have complexes about their penis. Gentlemen most often think that their penis is too small. However, men do not seek help from specialists. – For a man, coming to a sexologist’s office is an admission of failure. Everyone would like to see themselves as the proverbial macho, and this undoubtedly contradicts the need for treatment due to sexual dysfunction – says the sexologist, MD. med. Ewa Zarudzka. – Meanwhile, solving the problem sometimes turns out to be very simple. Moreover, few are aware that bed failure may be a signal of atherosclerosis, the consequence of which may be a stroke or a heart attack. Although specialists emphasize that the testosterone level rises as a result of strength exercises, as many as 30% of respondents do not do any sport.

Without contraception

Only 35% of the surveyed men said that their partner uses contraception. Most accept the method of contraception they choose. However, every third man feels stress because his partner does not use contraception. Despite this, most accept the possibility of becoming a father. Interestingly, doubts arise with age. Gentlemen who are not in a stable relationship cannot imagine having a child. Over 20% of men do not feel responsible for a possible unwanted pregnancy.

Urologist not only in his XNUMXs

Although every fourth respondent had skin lesions on the foreskin, and every fifth felt pain in the genital area, almost 70% have never visited a urologist. Such visits are usually made by men over 50. Meanwhile, urologists emphasize that any pain in the genital area should be a signal to visit a urologist. Also, changes to the testicles or penis must be examined by a doctor. Urologist Dr. Jan Karol Wolski encourages men to perform a self-test of the testicles, just like women examine their breasts. Untreated changes can even be life-threatening over time.

Survey data:

Sexual quality test: 6 men and 52 women completed within 814 weeks:

– almost 60% of men were in the 18-39 age group, another 18% were 40-49 years old, 20% were in the 50-64 age group and 3% were over 65

– only 4% of the surveyed men declared primary education, 49% – secondary, and 47% higher

– 14% of the surveyed men indicated that they are not in a stable relationship, 28% declared that they were not married, and 58% were married

– slightly more than 80% of women were in the 18-39 age group, another 12% – 40-49 years old, 7% – 50-64 years and less than 1% declared they were over 65 years old

– 50% of women declared higher education, 47% secondary, and only 3% primary

– 16% of the surveyed women were not in a stable relationship, 43% declared that they were not married, and 41% that they were married

– the smallest number of men surveyed (14%) came from cities with a population of 50-100 thousand, in the remaining cases each category of the city size was represented by a similar group of respondents.

Text: Halina Pilonis

The Penigra brand is a partner of the Sexual Life Quality Test