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In my Soviet childhood, boys were no different from girls. Well, except that, according to the TRP standards, they should have jumped higher in physical education. Well, there, throw a training grenade at the NVP further. Yes, don’t cry like girls. And so, girls just like us. Here I am, I jumped on skis from a springboard, and stood on my feet, and the boy drove through the snow with his nose. Skates? I put three woolen socks on my 32nd size leg, and on them my uncle’s skates of the 38th size, and I will also insert shields, no matter what the leg sways from side to side. I’ll slide down the icy porch on all fours and to the river, and only hobble about 30 minutes on skates. But I’ll ride, plenty! Hockey? Yes please! Give me just a stick! Football? Yes, they always put me at the gate in Polyanka, so that I would not get under my feet, it hurts a little, they will still trample. A bike? I’ll get under the frame and somehow go, so what if it weighs as much as I do. Ice skating? Yes, my girlfriend and I almost swept into the spring river, into the ice drift. Riding a boat, rowing is easy. Make an explosive package? Yes, what’s so difficult, throw carbide into a bottle of water. Throw it in the bushes and wait for it to bang! Climb up trees? Yes, I can say that I spent half a day on them, building houses. And fishing, and dig up worms or catch caddisflies? Yes, I always caught fish more than boys! What about volleyball? Yes, I managed with one physical education teacher on one side of the grid, and a whole team of 10 graders on the other side.
So how are girls different from boys?
For me, they (boys) did not differ in anything special. The same as me. Or am I just like them. Until I grew up.
I used to understand boys, now not always, although I try.
Situation number 1
I’m waiting for him to come home from work, so I want to talk, share my impressions. Comes, just said four words. Food. Rest. Sex. Dream. Oh, to talk? It’s a joke, but in every joke, there is a share of a joke. Something must be done! And, I remembered, a Russian folk tale. Well, remember? Baba Yaga washed him in the bathhouse, changed his clothes, fed him and started talking to him. I’m trying. Helps. But not in 100% of cases. Think. I dress, I put on make-up, I say that I’m going to my friends. He looks with an interested look, says that I look great, suggests not to go anywhere. Stop. I want to talk, but not something else. I can say that the swan song breaks from my lips, so I want to talk about everything, and you are at work, and I am here with the children!
— Okay, dear, you can go to your friends, you will return late, call, meet.
Ah well! I went to my friends! Well, we finally talked! We discussed everything, outlined plans, shared, in the sense of experience! The soul sings for a whole week. My husband walks happy, I talk to him briefly and to the point.
Situation number 2
I send the faithful to the store. Buy something, otherwise the refrigerator is empty. Returns. Bought: Rot Front bars, cookies, gingerbread.
— What is it!
You asked me to buy something. I bought.
Silent scene. Need to think. Ah, eureka! Next time I write a shopping list. Helps. Brings. Everything is according to the rules. Exactly. Reinforcement, in the form of affection and praise. What a good fellow you are, what would I do without you! You brought so much, but how did you drag it all!
Situation number 3
Darling, I need to go for a massage, but there is some kind of incomprehensible address and also a map. I don’t understand anything.
Starts to explain, then prints out the diagram and tries to give it to me.
— What? You are bulling me? Do I need a diagram? Give me another card! Just don’t wait for me back. I will understand your map, maybe in a week I will understand that! Yes, for me, a map of the area is like a red rag to a bull! I don’t understand, don’t even explain! Ah, I understand! So, the first carriage, to the left through the glass doors. Okay, next, then up the stairs past the stocking stall, okay. Then to the right, past Sberbank, behind it, the house you need. Dear, I wrote everything down, thank you, if something goes wrong, I’ll call, keep the phone at hand!
Conclusions
Situation number 1
A man is a person who does not understand why a woman uses so many words, phrases, emotions, instead of describing the situation in three words.
Women, if you need to talk and speak out, meet your friends and, they will be happy, listen to you, and you to them. Everyone will be satisfied. And especially your husband.
Situation number 2
The instructions must be applied to the husband (man). How to do, what to do, where to do (if you gave him the task to do something in the house).
The husband should be given a clear shopping list, how much to hang in grams, how much to cut in centimeters.
Situation number 3
This is how you read and understand. It’s about me. I am a woman. Yes, I am like that. What about my husband?
Although, of course, not all women are like that. Students of the University of Practical Psychology improve their thesis speech skills, manage emotions and build harmonious relationships. It is pleasant for men to communicate with such women.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.