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Hello dear blog readers! A man’s self-esteem, in principle, like a woman’s, is the basis, the foundation with which they build relationships with the outside world. Unfortunately, not every person has it, not to mention the fact that many are simply not able to answer what is the meaning of this phrase. Therefore, I suggest that you familiarize yourself with the recommendations that will not only help restore self-esteem, but also show what components it consists of.
Recommendations
Behavior type and relationship building model
Never try to arouse pity in the woman with whom you want to build a relationship. By this, if you attract her, then only for a short period of time. Since then she will become bored, sad, and you will seem like a burden. And the power in your couple will fall on the fragile shoulders of the chosen one. And they don’t have to be stronger than you. If only because next to you she will not feel protected. This dooms the misfortune of both.
A man who respects himself will not allow himself to be manipulated by pity. After all, then there is a feeling that he has nothing more to offer his partner, nothing to interest and attract. This will be chosen only by the one who just strives to suppress and keep under control. In this case, there can be no question of any sense of self-worth.
Responsibility
This has been said more than once, but I repeat — learn to make a choice, and be responsible for it. Even if you realize you made a mistake. There are no perfect people who are always right. There are those who refuse to admit it. But, in this case, this property of character shows that the person is not able to develop and advance. Experience is rejected; accordingly, a person constantly has to face disappointment due to his imperfection. And instead of realizing the shortcomings and limitations that could help in the future not to repeat mistakes, he will seem to “walk in circles”.
Loyalty to the word
Cunning, of course, is sometimes a necessary character trait that helps to achieve what you want. But you should always answer for your words. And in order not to have to get out of an unpleasant situation later, do not promise what you cannot fulfill. Everything is simple. As a last resort, warn in advance and explain why it does not work out. And if you do not talk idle talk, others will be able to trust you, they will be able to rely on you. Over time, you will acquire the status of a person who is really reliable, and this will only positively affect your self-esteem.
You can get acquainted with the ways that will help you learn to keep your word by clicking on this link.
Fortitude
We can often hear the phrases: “Be above this”, “Behave with dignity”. They, as it were, urge to silently “swallow” resentment and not express their opinion. Because otherwise they will show their weakness, or that they are on the same level of development as the one who attacks. So, I want to say to this — never allow others to violate your boundaries. Silent, and not protecting yourself, you certainly will not feel confident. This is a very convenient way to manipulate. Yes, losing your temper, swearing, screaming is not an option. But to explain what does not suit you, you simply have to. Learn more about how to stand up for yourself and protect yourself without the use of aggression, which destroys both personality and relationships, you will learn here.
Care
A man with self-respect will never offend the weak. Especially for fun. Everything is in order with his self-esteem, which is why there is no need to raise it at the expense of others. Take care of your loved ones and don’t forget about yourself. Everyone needs rest and recovery. Even if it seems that there is enough energy to move mountains, stop, take a break, then you will have enough for many more actions.
By the way, you can check the level of your self-esteem by passing the test.
Competition
The world of men is based on rivalry and competition. If a woman is mainly realized in the family, at least she has the right to choose. Then the representatives of the strong half of humanity have to fight for their place in society. It is in it that they show their aggression, strength, uniqueness and abilities.
Think about whether you enjoy what you do? If not, what’s stopping you? Maybe you work in the wrong area, are afraid to take risks, or don’t know what you really want? Explore how you compete with others, how do you know if you have won or lost? How do you behave with this? If the opponent is tougher, then what do you do to deal with him?
Knowing your pattern of behavior in stressful situations will help you understand your strengths and weaknesses. Accordingly, by working on something that does not bring the expected result, you will eventually begin to achieve success. The main thing is not to get hung up on what you don’t know how, but on the contrary, strive to learn new things. Watch the behavior of those you respect and acknowledge.
Respect and recognition
One who does not value himself is not capable of truly appreciating others. Like the one who does not give recognition to others, he is not able to give it to himself. Then there is a risk of «failing» into arrogance, which occurs against the background of such strong insecurity and shame for oneself that the psyche, for the purpose of protection, simply «inflates» its own significance. Or a person can «push» himself, considering others more capable, smart and strong. So learn to show respect. And for this, write two lists, in which there will be at least 10 points, where you indicate what you can praise yourself for, and what is special about people close to you.
In psychology, there is such a term as projection. It means that a person endows others with his qualities and skills, because for some reason he is not able to recognize this in himself. Therefore, carefully read what you wrote and try to accept that you also have such traits in your personality structure.
Completion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! Finally, I recommend reading an article about 7 values in human life. This is the necessary foundation on which human development is built.
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina.