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“And do not show yourself to women in this chintz junk. You’re a bad girl, but you’ll probably be able to fool the men. The Lord is with you, son, is this how they thread a needle? You hold the thread still and put a needle on it, but you need to keep the needle still and stick the thread into it. Women always do this, and men always do the opposite. And when you throw a stick at a rat or someone else, stand on tiptoe and raise your hand above your head, but try to make it as awkward as possible, and miss that way by five, six steps. Throw with your arm outstretched to its full length, as if you have it on a charshtra, as all girls throw, and not with a hand and elbow, putting your left shoulder forward, like boys; and remember: when a girl is thrown something on her knees, she arranges them, and does not move them together, as you moved when you caught the lead … »
Mark Twain. The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn.
Once, artist Nicole Hollander drew this little comic: two characters with frost-red ears stand outside on the coldest day of the year. One says: “Why do I need a hat, I don’t care about the cold.” Second: “I don’t wear a hat, it ruins my whole hairdo.” Which one is a boy and which one is a girl? Everyone knows the answer.
Girls from childhood prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. Boys like to explore new, uncharted territories, girls equip the existing territory.
When dressing, the girls first put on the bottom, then the top. Boys usually do the opposite. The boys take off their T-shirt, grabbing it on their backs with their hands and dragging them over their heads. The girls, undressing, take off their blouse with both hands, pulling it up.
When yawning, the boys cover their mouths with their fists, the girls with their palms. Turning around at the call, the girls turn only their heads, the boys turn their bodies, because their necks are not so flexible.
Girls breathe with their chests, while boys breathe using the abdominal muscles. Girls have a faster heart than boys. Perhaps that is why they are so fussy.
In a dream, girls hold a blanket between their legs and hug a pillow. Boys often lie on their backs and spread their legs wide, and put their hands under their heads. However, more often in a dream they twitch so much that their bed and blanket look like a battlefield. When brushing their teeth, the girls rest their hands on their sides. The boys spread their legs wide and lean with their free hand on the edge of the sink. Trying to get comfortable in the chair, the girls tuck their legs under them. Boys spread their legs wide or put the foot of one foot on the knee of the other. The girls try to go up or down the mountain sideways. The boys again just spread their legs wider.
The belt on the dressing gown of the girl is tied above the navel, at the waist, and the boys — below. Girls plug their ears with their fingers, boys with their palms. When telling a secret, the girls cover their mouths and their friend’s ears with their palms. Boys just lower their voices and bow their heads.
Examining their heels, the girls turn around behind their backs. The boys lift their leg and look at it from the front. Thinking, the boys scratch their chin and neck, the girls wind a strand of hair around their finger. Correcting their hair, the boys run their hands through their hair, smoothing it. Girls fluff up their hair with their fingers, fluffing their hair.
Boys do not wear anything uncomfortable for the sake of beauty. Girls will never wear anything ugly for the sake of convenience. Having lost a valuable thing in an apartment, girls usually turn to the devil or the brownie, asking them to play and give it back. The boys turn everything around.
Having drunk, the girls immediately admit it. The boys claim that they are like glass, to the last. The girl, seeing something that she likes madly, exclaims: “God, what a charm!”; the boys say: “Wow, those are boobs!”
When boys want to please girls, they pretend to be smart. And the girls, in turn, play dumb. Boys think silently, and girls reason with themselves, which is perceived by men as unnecessary chatter.
And now for the science:
Biological response to danger
In boys and girls, different substances are involved in the reaction to danger: acetylcholine in girls, adrenaline in boys. In this regard, women react anxiously to any danger, and in boys, a situation of danger without a threat to their lives causes excitement and cheerfulness.
Girls are more stress-resistant, but at the same time more anxious than boys. Like this? Biologically, girls internally hold the situation of danger and tension more reliably, they break less often, but outwardly they react much more anxiously.
It should be borne in mind that boys in a situation of stress want to be alone with themselves, and girls in a similar situation tend to share their experiences with someone. Outwardly, she complains, but in fact, she quickly releases her inner tension.
Abilities and life preferences of boys and girls
Girls hear better than boys: boys have 35% fewer pathways in the cochlea. While girls hear better, girls do not like loud sounds. They don’t like being yelled at. Nobody likes it, but the boys agree to it. Boys are not annoyed by a loud, sharp and even repetitive sound. And this is something other than «boys hear it worse.»
Girls are much faster and better at seeing the differences between objects, while boys are better at finding these objects. Boys better orient themselves in space than girls and master this ability faster: about 4 years earlier than girls.
Girls are much more ready to live in a situation of multiple tasks. They can do several different things at the same time and easily switch between them. On the other hand, boys are better than girls in the exact sciences. It is easier for girls to work with symbols, with abstract categories and with pictures.
Girls love everything colored more, and among flowers they prefer soft, pastel — and warm colors. Boys no longer love colored things, but things that can be used to do something: hit, pick, screw, attach, in general, design something and build something. If you already choose from colors, the boys will choose something brighter and rather chilly shades.
Girls, in principle, love warmth, they are more cheerful and active in warmth, and boys do not tolerate warm temperatures well — in warmth they have a decline in activity, they think worse, relax and just fall asleep. And in the cold they have cheerfulness and increased activity. They love to temper themselves, especially during sports.
While the boys are learning to build and pump their muscles, the girls are happy to develop language skills and fine motor skills in their hands.
Girls are better at catching kinesthetic sensations than boys, they are more sensitive to touch. In addition, they have better sensory memory: they remember sounds, smells, roughness better than boys — and their bodily sensations, which they call feelings.
Boys do not like and find it difficult to talk about their feelings, while girls find it easy and they just love it. Girls love to worry, boys of all strong feelings seem to love only the feeling of danger.
From birth, girls unconsciously strive for eye-to-eye contact and always pay more attention to faces. Boys don’t do it. Boys avoid eye contact and — advice: if you are going to talk to a boy, do not sit opposite him, do not glare at him, but sit as if next to him.
Life preferences of boys and girls
Friendship girls establish, mainly among girls or among the company. Girls can get together only for the sake of the fact of gathering, that is, «let’s sit down and talk.» The boys think that “let’s sit down and talk” is an absolutely unnecessary waste of time.
Girls easily and with pleasure go for a close and frank relationship with the teacher: we are friends with the teacher, we tell her all the troubles. Boys are not. Boys prefer to read literature that contains useful information — how things work, how things happen. Girls prefer to read novels.
Boys get together to do something together, girls — because they like to get together.
Boys and girls at school
Boys are ill-adjusted to school. Boys are twice as likely as girls to have developmental problems, almost three times as likely to have learning problems: 70% of them get very low scores, 80% have disciplinary problems.
- They read and understand well: 29% of boys, 41% of girls.
- Poor writing tests at school: 16% of boys, 31% of girls.
- Emotional disorders: Boys have three times more than girls.
- Suicide attempts: twice as many in boys as girls (ages 10-14).
Overall, girls are ahead of boys in almost all indicators at school. And the most interesting thing is that this is precisely the reason why, in later life, boys begin to quickly outstrip girls. But more on that in another article…
By the way, why do you think this is happening?
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.