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Taking a child to kindergarten or staying at home with him is a question that worries many mothers.
We interviewed teachers, caregivers, and parents to compile a comprehensive list of differences between home and community lifestyles. Which of these are the pros, and what are the disadvantages, everyone decides for himself. Let us add from ourselves: our ideal is when one complements the other.
1. A home child is less likely to get sick
It is logical: if you stay at home and communicate with other children to a minimum, then there is nowhere to catch a cold. Whereas a child who goes to kindergarten will not miss a single infection. At the same time, he will not crawl out of the snot for the entire first year, regardless of the age at which he went to kindergarten.
On the other hand, a home kid will go to school anyway. And it will still hurt, because the body must somehow form an adequate immune response. And it’s better to skip two or three weeks in kindergarten than in school.
It is believed that the older the child is, the easier it will be to transfer the virus. Therefore, many parents, for example, send their children not to a nursery, but immediately to a middle or senior group. But this does not work with all diseases: the earlier, the better to get sick with the same chickenpox.
At the same time, much depends on the individual characteristics of the organism. If the illness is difficult and becomes chronic, the pediatrician may advise you to abandon the kindergarten in favor of the house.
2. After kindergarten, more discipline
At home, after all, there will be concessions in the regime. Have lunch an hour late, skip naps, ignore the walk. In the kindergarten, you will not be spoiled by the teachers, there the whole day is strictly scheduled by the clock. For the school, this is a useful skill, which will then develop into the ability to independently organize the day.
In addition, the child learns to respond to the demands of adults: in kindergarten he obeys the teacher, at school it is already easier for him to recognize the teacher as an authority.
3. The home child is more developed
But only on condition that the parents are interested in child development: they take the preschooler to developmental and creative classes, go to school preparation courses, and work with the baby themselves. In kindergarten, of course, there are also classes. But, firstly, there are fewer groups in the circles, which means that more time is given to each child. Secondly, in kindergartens (if they are not speech therapy, everything is much more interesting there) programs are too truncated.
But at the same time, the kindergarten graduate’s knowledge is more systematized and a habit of regular classes has already been formed (thanks to the previous point).
4. The kindergartner is emotionally more mature.
And this is also a plus in terms of preparing for school. “Socialization”, – parents almost breathe this word. He is already accustomed to being in a team, he is not embarrassed by the large number of children “accidentally” gathered in one class, the need to obey other people’s adults. He went through the “school of survival” and can stand up for himself if teased. In addition, he is already familiar with informal communication, which cannot be achieved even by visiting circles and sections.
There is, however, a downside to this adulthood. Many mothers note that domestic children, compared to those who go to the kindergarten, are delicate daisies. Including in the manner of communication – it is from the kindergarten that the child brings home the first rude words.
5. The home child wants to be in the spotlight
In large families, this is not so noticeable, but if the baby is alone in the family, he is definitely used to being the center of attention. And, once in a team, he can give out tantrums when the teacher singles out other children. How is it: I was not asked, I was not praised – and so on.
At the same time, leaders often grow out of such children. Having experienced the first thrill that he was “cheated”, the kid will do his best to take his place at the head of the team again.
6. A kindergarten graduate is more independent
He will not wait for the buttons on his shirt to be buttoned, and will be the first to eat in the dining room. When you have 30 preschool children under the supervision of you, you do not take care of each one individually, and it is not in the tasks of the educator (at least in older groups) to do this. His task is to show, teach and, as a last resort, help, but only as an exception.
Parents often lack patience. And at home there are grandmothers who are the first to guard children’s interests. As a result, children often come to the first grade, not only who do not know how to use a knife and fork, but also, excuse me, do not know how to wipe their butts.