This year, many went on a long-awaited vacation only in the fall. And, perhaps more than ever, they dreamed of new experiences, vivid emotions and, perhaps, even love experiences. What to expect from a holiday romance, how to complete it without consequences and what to do with feelings?
Today, when the future is unclear, and in the present we are faced with unexpected restrictions and difficulties, a vacation away from home, on the seashore, is an opportunity to forget about everything at least for a while. Immerse yourself in new sensations, and sometimes start a non-committal romance. But is it always possible to keep in touch with reality in this situation?
What to expect from a holiday romance
Usually resort romances stay where they started — at the resort. It is somewhat naive to expect something serious from an easy relationship with someone you met on vacation and may never see again. Often fleeting lovers disappear the next morning after the first night together. And in order to avoid disappointment and not spoil the rest, you need to be prepared for such a development of events. A holiday home, sanatorium or five-star hotel is not the best place to look for a partner for a long-term relationship.
Think about what you really want out of the novel. Indeed, such relationships often do not imply mutual obligations. Even if your partner beautifully looks after, gives gifts, says nice words, this does not mean that in ordinary life he is a wealthy person. Often, a person can spend more in a couple of weeks of rest than in a few months at home.
It happens that at the resort you want to relax, chat with different partners. It is better to immediately inform a new acquaintance that you do not plan to continue the relationship for longer than, for example, for one night. Openness, honesty will save you from having to look for a way out of an ambiguous situation later. After all, your partner may have a different view of the affair with you.
It is also important to part correctly so as not to harm either yourself or your partner. It is worth explaining in advance that you are looking for an easy relationship. Or, on the contrary, warn the partner that you would like to continue communication, at least for the duration of the vacation. And if he refuses, there will be no omissions between you, you will save your nerves and time. And in the morning you will not be disappointed that you woke up in your room all alone.
Do not forget that casual relationships always increase various risks. Remember about contraception, try to get to know your partner better, if possible, ask to see your passport. If what your new lover offers you does not suit you, you are unpleasant, clearly announce this to him.
If everything is serious
You foresaw everything, explained your position, you felt good together, you did not plan to continue the relationship after the rest, but suddenly fell in love … Tell your partner about this. If your feelings go unanswered, try to end the relationship, no matter how much it hurts. Perhaps these experiences will become a valuable experience later. In any case, remember: «you will not be forced to be nice.» And the sooner you get rid of illusions, the better.
But even if you have been happy for three days now, your feelings are mutual, you promise to meet each other after the rest, stay vigilant. It is important to learn as much as possible about the partner, because the possibility of fraud is not excluded.
Often, holiday romances end with the fact that a vacationer in love discovers an empty safe in the morning and no wallet. Therefore, you should not tell a new acquaintance how much money you have, where you store it. If possible, do not invite an unknown person to your room at all.
How pleasant a holiday romance will be depends not only on the partner, but also on you. If you can relax, surrender to feelings, but at the same time do not forget about safety and openly discuss your desires with your partner, you can try new things, experiment and spend time enjoying every minute.
How to end a holiday romance?
The first thing you can do is leave without saying goodbye. This is the best way for those who want to leave the holiday history behind and never see their «holiday» partner again. However, would such a way of ending the novel be fair to the other?
It’s better to say goodbye though. If, nevertheless, the partner wants to continue, but you do not, treat him with care, let him have pleasant impressions of you. Talk, explain why it is impossible for you to continue.
If you gave out your phone number or address from the very beginning, and then regretted it, also frankly admit that you do not want to communicate. Or maybe it will be pleasant for you to write in a friendly way sometimes. Either way, it’s worth discussing.
You should not expect more from a holiday romance than it can give. But who knows, suddenly you met your fate on a nearby sunbed? Therefore, if you want to experience a love adventure, go for it.
The rules of holiday romance exist, including in order to break them.