The expression “love of my life” always surprises me. This is one of those phrases that we hear without being aware of either her pomposity or her excess power. Can you imagine this? This is a way to communicate that you will have only one person who will become the one and only.
He will win the Oscar of your love life. This is the highest form of choice. Meanwhile, it is enough to look around to see how different paths our sensuality moves. We rarely see those who have spent their entire lives with one person. Today we part and converge again in new combinations. We go through a series of failures and successive approximations to the ideal, love disappointments and love fatigue. And yet the strange romantic myth still lives on: we still hear young girls sighing for the “man of their lives.”
- Are you ready for (new) love?
In times of plurality in every sense of the word, in the realm of redundancy, we are still feverishly hungry for singularity. It was customary to talk about the love of a lifetime when the duration of this very life was 50 years! The union of the two lasted a maximum of thirty years. Then it seemed possible to make the whole journey together. But today, when our lives are getting longer, is there still any sense in this formulation? Actually, I think there is! Holding on to your illusion is necessary to take off. At the moment of the meeting, the main thing is to believe that there is a taste of eternity in it. Not to expect that life together will be eternal means to feel ephemeral from the very beginning; pronounce the word «end» from day one. All this is very symbolic for our era. Modern society glorifies the dictatorship of the moment. Only today is taken into account. We are constantly in the truth of this second, and it is true only when we say it. Perhaps women no longer believe in handsome princes, but every time they express a desire to meet him, they are sure of his existence.
- Why doesn’t he want to get married?
And in general, to believe is useful! It’s so good to think that among the approximately three billion men on earth there is one «correct». Yeees. Still, with such a formulation, it seems extremely unlikely to find it. How do we recognize this kindred spirit? But what if it turns out (let’s not simplify the task) that the woman of my life is a Chinese woman? Looking for a Chinese woman among Chinese women is like looking for a needle in a dozen haystacks. In reality, things are often not so difficult at all. The love of all life has one great virtue: it comes into our lives by itself. And we are not looking for it. And this is encouraging! At each new meeting, we immediately ask ourselves if the person in front of us is not the same. This girl I just met, maybe she is the woman of my life? But still I won’t ask her about it right off the bat. Perhaps I’ll start by asking another question: «Are you free tonight?»