Healing Meditation: Break free from codependency and love yourself

What is codependency? This is a relationship in which the balance is off: we spend our time and energy on meeting the needs of another person, and he is in no hurry to respond in kind. Our needs are ignored. The deep reason is that we do not value ourselves and therefore we waste time and energy on something external: trying to help others, change them, control their actions. At the same time, we do not notice and do not express our feelings and needs.

Codependency hurts

She hurts. We push ourselves and our interests into the background and, as a result, become victims of burnout and exhaustion. We are sure that people use us, and this makes them dissatisfied and embittered. We dutifully accept emotional, verbal, or even physical bullying, which further erodes self-esteem and reinforces feelings of inferiority.

We’ve been hurt so many times that it’s getting harder to trust anyone. We are not aware of feelings and do not show them to anyone, and therefore no one can show us that these feelings are important and worthy of being taken seriously. We do not love ourselves and therefore we attract people who do not know how to love.

Codependency is curable

The tendency to such a relationship will not disappear on its own, it cannot be outgrown. This pattern persists in new relationships, even if the loved one really decided to change and began to be treated for addiction. The problem will not go away if we stay the same and broadcast the same requests. The source of codependency is old traumas, only we can heal them.

To do this, it is important to learn how to take care of yourself. Instead of trying to change others, you need to start changing. This will not be easy: the longer we believe that the problem is in others, the more difficult it is then to abandon this attitude and stop considering ourselves a victim.

What should be changed? First of all, learn to love yourself – then we will no longer tolerate mistreatment, we will begin to behave more confidently, stand up for rights, take care of physical, emotional and spiritual needs. This helps us worry less about others – we no longer take responsibility for their actions and recognize their right to autonomy.

How can mindfulness meditation help?

The healing process begins when we acknowledge the pain, show empathy for ourselves, and understand why and why we want to change the way we think and behave. Mindfulness practice and meditation are effective healing tools to help reduce anxiety and focus on taking care of yourself.

Instead of dwelling on worries about the future or guilt about the past, it is better to focus on the present, this is where mindfulness helps. It gives hope, teaches to react less violently. We train to think about what is important to us, without being distracted by what is happening.

I wrote the text of a meditation to get rid of codependency. In it, I talk about the difficulties that I have to face. I hope this helps you feel stronger and less alone.

Meditation helps to become more aware of the goals we are moving towards in the healing process and to fix them. We learn to understand ourselves, recognize needs, separate from the other person, and take care of ourselves.

To get the most out of it, do it in a quiet and peaceful place. Try to relax your neck and shoulders – sometimes it helps to tighten the muscles first, and only then relax. Take a few deep breaths and try to be present in the present moment.

healing meditation

For most of my life, I have cared for and thought about others. As a result, I feel only resentment and fatigue.

Now I’m starting to know myself. I will listen to my thoughts and feelings.

I will take into account my needs and needs, and not just others, learn to get rid of the desire to control and correct everything. Instead, I will focus on myself.

If I get confused in other people’s problems, then I will try to concentrate on my own affairs, because this is the only thing that I can control.

Now I will make time to take care of myself. I will do something useful for the body, mind and spirit.

I am learning to relax, enjoy and have fun. I am learning to be in the present moment instead of worrying about the future or remembering the past.

My life is not perfect, and I am not perfect myself. If I again start worrying too much about others or indulging in their vices, I will pity myself.

My goal is not a perfect result, but gradual progress. I will continue to know myself little by little and learn to take care of myself. And along the way, I will treat myself with compassion.