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Should we buy her a real doll?
If your little boy is content with his blanket, no need to buy him a trendy bather. Do not anticipate his request … On the other hand, if he asks us for a doll to behave “as in real life”, why not accept?
To know : There are also “sexed” infants which allow little boys to identify with these dolls “who have a penis like them”. |
The ideal baby
Moderate in size (the length of your forearm is good), it will be light and washable for hygienic reasons. Your child will also appreciate having at his disposal some accessories to dress him, style him, look after him, change him …
— For the bassinet, a cardboard box covered with a fabric will do;
— For clothes, some Babygros from the first days of your pup will undoubtedly be the size of the bather;
— To play the dinette, Baby can use one of his old plastic bottles;
— Plus all accessories that your imagination can invent …
A doll to imitate mom and dad …
Cyril, 3 and a half years old, “Started playing with dolls when her little sister was born,” says Anne-Marie, her mother. Likewise, the mother of Théo, 6 years old, explains that her boy “gave her baby a name, dresses it, undresses it and plays with it while watching me do it with his little sister …”
Parents take the step backwards!
Christelle had some reservations. But his 3 year old son, surrounded by a 7-year-old big sister and a 1-year-old little sister “did not give up. He even wanted us to buy him Barbies. “She ended up letting him play with the elder Barbies, but wondering what was best for him:” Lend him a doll explaining that it’s just a loan, or buy one for him. him alone and let him act as he wants ”. To explain her hesitations, Christelle specifies that “at the same time, her son also asked to put on scrunchies and necklaces”. She admits: “I also cannot deny the fact that since I was pregnant, I already imagined her playing with planes, trucks… In short, the games that we lend to boys! So, when after 2 years, he asked me for a doll, I wondered where I had made a mistake… ”
He plays with dolls: the opinion of parents
Valérie is one of those mothers who are totally convinced. His son Lucas, 4 and a half years old, “Has a real passion for Barbie dolls”. She confides: “Me, I like my little boy with this feminine side. A little sensitivity does not hurt us in this world where men think only of war !!! “
Some parents say yes right away to the doll or infant for their little boy, for educational reasons. Emmanuelle says: “This game is for me a way to see how he sees me. It also facilitates dialogue between us. Theo always has questions about everything. This allows us to respond to him while playing ”.
As for Estelle, she notices that her relationship with Amaury is less confrontational since he can scold his doll. The doll allows an identification that allows the child to express himself. We often see that it is often the dads who are the most reluctant to see their son playing with a doll… But there are plenty of counter-examples! Franck, daddy of Yanis, believes that it is necessary “to let him play with what he wants”, while being delighted however that the true passion of his son, it is the cars … Most of the parents accept the doll, or the infant, as a toy among many others.
Finally, beyond the family structure, some criticize the community for sometimes “forcing” “male” games on boys. “From nursery school, he learned to play with a pistol, explains Cédric about his son. Gabriel. He plays little soldiers, but I didn’t teach him. We are expecting a second child and I would rather Gabriel be caring and loving with his little brother or sister, rather than a warrior. “