An ambitious, determined and brave man, the Hawk needs power. In pursuit of their goals, the Hawks acquire a lot of opponents, but, on the other hand, they achieve a lot. Their hostility, aggressiveness and some obsession make them very difficult companions in life, but at the same time they make everyone stretch out in front of them and give all the best in business. We admire them more than we love them.
Hawks demand immediate submission, selfless devotion, and mass admiration. But, on the other hand, they work harder than anyone, and, as a rule, deserve such treatment.
They strive for perfection, ideal, uncompromising, demanding «all or nothing.» And although they easily criticize others and themselves, they react badly to criticism from outside. Any suggestion that they might make a mistake not only makes them furious, but can also plunge them into a state of deep depression, as behind this hawkish façade they are not as violent as they first appear.
For the Hawks, the world is a battlefield and they are surrounded by enemies. But do not worry: they are armed with intelligence and insight, they are natural strategists, and they have a lot of energy. The only battle they lose is the battle with themselves.
According to the style of influence, the Hawk is more of a Strength, but its negative version, which rather presses and lowers by force, rather than charges and supports. How much you are a Hawk — you can find out by passing the test «What kind of bird are you?»
What the hawk needs
Diagnosis and general prescriptions.
Seeing enemies around you, you unwittingly turn even those who could be your friend into them. You turn possible like-minded people against their will into your competitors. To prevent this from happening, you must learn to be more tolerant and benevolent.
1. Exercise «Smile».
You must train yourself to have a warm, friendly smile as your usual expression. If it is not there, there must be a readiness for it. An inner smile should always be.
2. Exercise «Peace be with you.»
The first phrase (internal phrase, attitude) when meeting with any person should be “Peace be with you!”. Give it to him with all your soul, with all your heart! Leaving the house in the morning, throw it to the sky, birds, trees! Any nice tree can be hugged. If you start arguing or swearing with someone, remember and repeat every 3 minutes: “Peace be with you!” — it will help you stop.
Many people like (and simply save) another internal phrase, namely: “Good.” No matter what happens, every five minutes say to yourself with an inner smile: “Good!”. They yell at you — «Good.» You shout — also «Good.» After some time, no one will want to scream, and the soul will become light and warm.
3. Exercise «Transfer of initiative».
Often give the interlocutor the initiative in the conversation. Let the conversation be about what he wants, and the way he wants.
4. Exercise «Assessment for yourself.»
Become judged rather than judged more often. How do people around you feel around you? Are they comfortable around you and around you? If someone made a mistake, pay attention not to this fact, but to your reaction in this situation.
5. Exercise «Pleasant conversation.»
If the question is not too fundamental (by the way, learn to evaluate it this way more often), try to make the conversation just pleasant. Whether the interlocutor is right or not, stupid or not — make sure that he feels good with you.
6. Exercise «Cloud in pants.»
Learn to speak less, quieter, softer. Try to agree, not disagree. Say «Yes» more often than «No». Avoid categorical phrases and intonations.
7. Exercise «Compliments and gratitude.»
Use every opportunity to tell the person something good about him and his actions. Express everything that you liked in a person: with eyes, a smile, and, of course, with words. Allow yourself to admire: “You look great today!” “Thank you from the bottom of my heart, this is just amazing!” The main thing is to be sincere, and it depends only on you.
8. Exercise «Thunderstorm is canceled.»
Learn to control your negative emotions. It’s hard for you to hold them back, and it’s hard for others to endure them. Learn not to swear. Isn’t it weak to forgive everyone for a whole week, to accept with understanding, not to criticize and not to make comments, not to condemn, not to swear? If a week is weak, then how much is not weak?
9. Exercise «Sage».
Learn wisdom, a contemplative outlook on life and the ability to lose. Your loss is your new experience and opportunity to learn from it. Whatever happens, before you get angry or upset, ask yourself: “How would a wise person feel about this?”