The opening of society to human sexuality made us learn to talk about our needs related to the intimate sphere, and above all, we realized that sex is not only for procreation, but is also a source of bodily pleasure.
It turns out, however, that although we know a lot about orgasm, theoretical knowledge does not always go hand in hand with experiencing it in practice. Lack of orgasm is a serious problem for both sexes, but it affects women much more often than men. This is due to the fact that men orgasm is physiological, while women need more stimuli and stronger stimulation to achieve full sexual satisfaction. The first step in such a situation should be to diagnose the reasons why experiencing an orgasm is difficult or even unattainable.
Possible reasons for not having an orgasm:
- shame, shyness – if we are embarrassed in the bedroom, we cannot concentrate on our own needs,
- bad relationship with a sexual partner – it is very difficult to give yourself completely to someone for whom you feel resentment, anger, mistrust, whom you do not accept,
- partner’s passivity – according to the saying that “it takes two to tango”, in a situation where one of the lovers has a weakened libido, passivity affects the other,
- not knowing your own body – when we ourselves do not know what gives us pleasure, we cannot expect it from our partner,
- trouble, trouble, fatigue – stress, exhaustion, excess of duties block potency and cause a lack of desire to have amorous close-ups,
- lack of intimacy – if we do not have the right conditions, there is no question of psychological comfort.
The inability to achieve orgasm very rarely results from reasons beyond our control, such as anatomical defects, diseases or congenital frigidity. Usually, the art of orgasm can simply be learned. Here are the most important tips on how to:
- Accept yourself – learn to love yourself and your body. The bedroom is not a place for complexes. You have to believe that you are a special person who deserves the best.
- Discover your own pleasure – you need to know what gives you pleasure and teach it to your partner. Each of us has different likes and dislikes, and remember that as long as you don’t hurt the other person, anything goes.
- Do not rush – savor intimacy with your partner, enjoy what you feel at the moment, spend time on mutual caresses and stimulation of both of you, instead of rushing to the final satisfaction.
- Take care of the relationship – desire weakens over time, so it is important to take care of the relationship with your partner on every level. Develop common interests, talk to each other, do something together, and closeness will pay off in the bedroom.
- Take care of your fitness – both physical and mental. It is well known that “in a healthy body, a healthy mind”. Sex requires activity, and this will ensure you exercise, proper diet and a healthy body.