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Once upon a time, sex was a marital obligation (for women), a way to “ease myself” (for men), something terrible (for virgins), and who knows what (for virgins). Let us acknowledge, please, that these terrible times are over and that the principle of pleasure is now in force – for both women and men – after all, we have equality.
First of all, sex should be a source of pleasure, regardless of the relationship in which, in what relationship, in what position and with what gadgets we practice it. If both parties enjoy the erotic games, then there is nothing to worry about whether they do it naked or in a batman costume, use the rich offer of the nearest sex shop, or have sophisticated tantric sex.
It’s easy to say, but not necessarily easy to do – firstly, often, especially women – agree to things in bed that they don’t want to do, secondly – this time regardless of gender – both sides carefully and shamefully hide their dreams, needs and whims. Third, often mutual knowledge of the body, anatomy or the way it functions is negligible (and it’s not really just about locating the G-spot). Fourthly, it often seems that even the beetles know HOW IT’S DONE, then even more so we – humans – relying on our natural instincts, will achieve amazing sexual success (whatever it is) just like that, without getting involved. in detail ars amandi. However, it soon turns out that such a female orgasm (in this case the partner’s satisfaction will be a success) is not easy to achieve. And I mean both the awkwardness of men and the lack of self-awareness of their own bodies in women – THEY cannot lead THEM to the top, and THEY cannot reach the top.
So how do you do it, how do you get pleasure? Of course, there are thousands of advice, hundreds of books have been written on this subject, with pictures, photos, instructions, glossaries, indexes and footnotes. Some of them are definitely worth a look. But one of the easiest ways is to approach sex as a playful child, to explore the world.
1. Sex is pleasure, and therefore fun and joy
When you plan to have fun (go out to the city in the evening, go skiing, cycling, dancing, building with Lego blocks) – don’t worry about how it goes, it’s not a competition. Whatever happens will be part of the game – apply this simple rule in bed – be open to what is happening, do not plan in advance what you will do. Enjoy everything – after all, in whatever position you land, you will be close to the person you love, desire and adore.
2. Be childishly curious about everything
On the body of your partner, go on a research trip to warm countries, humid tropical forests, cool temperate countries. Hike through valleys and mountains, explore inch by inch, memorize new terrain. Call them. Check their sensitivity to the touch of hands, fingers, tongue, ice, strawberries and chocolate.
3. Happy people do not count time
Take your time, you can climb the hill in five minutes, but to climb Mount Everest you need to set up several bases along the way. But the satisfaction is a thousand times greater!
4. Don’t be afraid of toys
That doesn’t mean you need to buy a fancy latex jumpsuit right away, a dolphin-shaped vibrator with pearls, handcuffs and a whip. The gadget can be the strawberries mentioned above, or condoms that are different than usual. An invaluable gadget is a good humidifier – sufficient moisture is the basis for successful sex. Saliva is a natural moisturizer, and most of all – vaginal discharge – but the saliva dries up quickly, and the amount of secretion produced by a woman’s body varies in different phases of the cycle, during the life period, it is influenced by fatigue or, for example, medications. Scanty discharge does not necessarily mean that the woman is not aroused, but it does mean a risk of abrasions, pain, and other unpleasant sensations. In a pharmacy, an erotic gadget store, and even in an ordinary supermarket or cosmetic store, you can easily get many intimate moisturizers. Note – if you use condoms, use water-based or silicone-based lubricants.
Don’t take sex too lightly, nor too seriously – it’s supposed to be fun after all. And as it happens in the case of play – it is more successful when all participants are having fun and are satisfied, so let’s take care of the needs of your partner, sometimes change the rules of the game so that it is not boring, don’t worry about failures, after all, in a moment the fun will start all over again, which should be wished to all lovers of the world.
MS