Habit kills desire?

“At the beginning of a relationship, everything is unusual and new, because the partners still do not know each other at all. Soon they will make a couple, but for now, each of them is driven by a double desire: on the one hand, sexual attraction to a partner, on the other, the desire to win and bind him to himself, the fear of losing him. Over time, the couple will fix some habits, establish customs, in a word, live an ordinary (do not be afraid of this word) life, since a feeling of instability, unsteadiness is a poor foundation for a long-term union of two. The creation of such marks, landmarks, anchor points is necessary throughout the relationship, as in any other endeavor. For example, a child can grow up safely only if the family has a stable environment that allows him to part with his parents, calmly go to school, knowing that when he returns, he will meet them again.

Relationships in a couple develop in the same way: it is infinitely pleasant to settle under one blanket, each with his own fascinating book, and this will not prevent partners from experiencing desire – provided that it is not motivated by the need to verify mutual feelings again and again. Routine kills desire when a man and a woman forget their gender. When a partner remembers that he is a man, and a partner feels like a woman, it always revitalizes their relationship, both at home and in bed … Each of them must be internally mobile so that his sex life does not freeze at one point .

Partners are often advised to surprise each other, but first of all, you need to surprise yourself, constantly changing the vision of yourself and your partner, again and again discovering something new in each other. This is the essence of eroticism, and not at all in the search for exotic poses that will kindle the flame of passion. In addition, the self-confidence and confidence that a strong relationship provides can encourage us to go off the beaten path from time to time. Routine as an aphrodisiac? Why not?”