The main array of what is formed inside us is our habits. Any role that you play for a long time becomes your nature: you get used to it, it sticks to you.
“You did an act — you reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; you sow a character, you reap a destiny.”
How to teach good habits?
As a general rule, a habit is formed through positive reinforcement repetitions, and usually within 20 to 40 days. However, there are exceptions to every rule.
Sometimes the habit doesn’t develop. It happens that the repetition of even seemingly quite successful actions does not lead to a habit; moreover, it leads to disgust and intensification of internal protest.
It happens, for example, that you play some roles day after day and feel that this role is not yours, it does not become yours. What is the feature here? Why do some roles stick, and some are rejected? Or: why, after repetition, a habit sometimes quickly arises and what was previously alien becomes habitually native, while the other will do for years and internally feel that this is alien, that he is violating his fragile human psyche.
For example, parents daily remind their children to brush their teeth and do exercises in the morning. In one family, children quickly mastered this, and in another family there is a scandal every morning: children reluctantly do it every time, but good habits are not developed — for years!
Why does it depend? The answer to this is the law of parallel reinforcement: the effectiveness of the main reinforcement depends on the parallel reinforcement that creates a background for it, in which a person fixes his attitude to what is happening.
How to train yourself?
- To make your future habit “delicious” right now — to “fire up” with it, strongly, strongly believe in its benefits.
- Motivate yourself.
- Motivate others to train you.
How to train others?
- How to teach a child to exercise
- How to teach children to wash, or Moidodyr is resting