Do you have a good family, do you love your children and take care of them? Then your task is for your children to know very clearly what the format is: what is categorically unacceptable in communication, where is the plinth, below which you cannot fall in your family. Teens should know:
- The obligations of parents to their children are defined by the Constitution of the Russian Federation and the Family Code. Their duty is to raise children, educate them and bring them up as worthy members of society. But parents have no obligation to serve your desires, prepare breakfast for you when you can do it yourself, and there is no obligation to buy you what you want: a computer, a new phone, and other things that all your friends already have. They can do it if you behave with dignity.
- When talking with elders, one should not show disrespect: sit pointedly lounging, not answering questions and showing that these questions bother you.
- Even when angry, you should never use foul language.
- Disagree on issues concerning both you and the elders — clearly and collectedly, with respect for the elders, say what you agree with, what you don’t — and what you propose.
- If there is a rule (we go to bed at 22.00), then it cannot be changed without the permission of the elders. “To inform” (that is, to put before the fact) is normal only in a force majeure situation and when it is impossible to discuss the urgent situation with the elders. If the elders were available, at least by phone, then making independent decisions in violation of agreements is a violation of family law.
- Guilty — ask for forgiveness. It’s just that an apology may not be accepted, and then your task is to talk with the elders so that they forgive you. If you think that you asked for forgiveness well, but your parents don’t forgive you, then you didn’t do it in a normal way: in this case, the result is determined not by you, but by the one from whom you ask for forgiveness.
It is already possible to speak with teenagers as with adults, turning to their mind, but at the same time you have to repeat the same thing several times, as in communicating with children. See →
Rules for a teenager
Teenagers are a difficult age, they object to the imposition of something from the outside and are ready to fight for their freedom. On the other hand, this is a time when parents are obliged to prepare them for adulthood, where responsibility and self-control are necessary. See →