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Sometimes these methods of psychotherapy are also useful.
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There are a large number of typical requests of a negative nature, with which a consultant who respects himself (and the client) will not work, at least meaningfully and directly. These are the questions: “I want to get rid of self-blame! How to overcome your laziness? I’m too shy — how to overcome myself? How to protect yourself from manipulation? How not to become a victim of scammers? How to recognize a lie? You need to know these questions from customers in order not to fall for them. At the same time, the problems behind these questions are quite real, and the task of the consultant is to translate these requests into a positive and constructive plane.
How? We will suggest the main directions.
I want to get rid of selfishness!
It is not necessary to get rid of self-criticism, but to master a positive and constructive attitude towards yourself. Exercise Mistake will help you.
How to overcome your laziness?
It is not laziness that needs to be overcome, but to deal with your philosophy of life, determine your goals and teach yourself to be organized. And start, perhaps, by starting to go to bed on time and get up early.
I’m too shy. How to overcome yourself?
Again — it is not effective to set negative goals, it is more effective to work with yourself on the positive. You do not need to fight against shyness, but develop the position of the Author, accustom yourself to confident behavior, put yourself in a royal posture and start training non-standard actions. So more fun?
How to protect yourself from manipulation?
Fashionable and rotten theme. Real results: first of all, it is an injection of fears, a person sees deceivers in everyone. As a rule, this is where it all ends. If the client and the consultant are more determined and the client really learns to defend himself against manipulation, then after studying he is gu.e. reacts to all moments in communication that he does not like, provokes a hostile attitude towards himself and provokes others to manipulate …
How not to become a victim of scammers?
If a person leads the same way of life, has the same environment and is still stupid, no advice will help him, and such questions are most often not a request in reality, but only a way to complain about a difficult life and terrible people. If this is not a complaint, but a serious request, we begin to wonder: “How often have you been deceived? Who specifically? Why are you hanging out with these people?» etc. It is clear that the decision to change the environment to a more worthy one and learn to understand people, which already involves attending psychological trainings, is a completely different story. Will the client be ready for this?
How to recognize a lie?
People who set themselves the task of using sign language to figure out those who will deceive and manipulate them do not protect themselves with this knowledge. Programs that teach «to recognize scammers and manipulators» lead to the exact opposite result: the number of deceived and deceived as a result of these programs only grows. See details →
Dear colleagues, what questions would you add here?