I was inspired to write this article by a recent trip to Israel.
I noticed one small but very significant difference. in the upbringing of children in Jewish families and ours.
I share my findings.
There is a belief that the Jews are a very intelligent people.
My thesis. Jews do not differ from any other people by special innate intellect.
The difference is in education.
Yes Yes. In education. They are raise their children to be GENIUS. They lay the genius in their children.
That is, a child from infancy constantly hears and sees, by addressing him, that he is a genius.
You just think about it…
How many opportunities gives the child such a position!!!
The child grows self-confident, his abilities. He is not scolded for some kind of blunder. They simply do not pay attention to it or calmly explain how it is right.
At the same time, he is constantly praised for any correct and active step.
What does a smart parent do with this method? Motivates your child to work, experiment and develop.
The little man lives with the feeling that everything he does is brilliant!
This imposes a certain responsibility on him. For example, it is not good for a brilliant child to study poorly, to get a deuce with a brilliant mind, or not to understand some rule.
Since you are a genius, you must constantly confirm this. We are proud of you and believe in you.
How is it customary to raise our children? I’ll make a reservation right away — not all parents treat their children this way. Not all. We also have smart and thinking parents a few steps ahead. Parents who know the power of suggestion and the importance of laying the foundation in a person from infancy.
But, unfortunately, sometimes we hear the following (from what we overheard at playgrounds, in shops and public transport):
– Where are you going?! Who is asking you?
— I would have sat already! ..
«My eyes wouldn’t have seen you!»
— And just try to bring a deuce — you will get it!
— It’s a parasite!
— Are You Normal?!
«I wish I hadn’t given birth to you!»
— All children are like children — and you …!
— Your hands grew out of one place
“If you do it again, I’ll kill you!”
— All in his father!
— I told you to shut up!
Will you bring the belt yourself?
And why am I being punished like this?
Everyone, I’ll stop. While I was writing, it became the worst. And if for a second imagine yourself in the place of a child who hears all this? And at the same time he sees the angry face of his beloved parent? … Just think what happens to the child’s psyche? Will he, after what has been said, know that moving forward is good? That the world is friendly? That any of his undertakings will be supported and he will succeed? Or will he go to drink beer with his comrades, because there is a conviction in his head that he is worthless and unlucky? ..
We forget, we cross out all such demotivators from our vocabulary.
Sow the habit of praising and supporting the child.
Below are the phrases that make our children strong, courageous, positive, active, thinking, caring — brilliant:
— Dad, look how good our child is!
— You will definitely pass the exam (write the test) — you are so smart
— You will succeed
— Try again — you will definitely succeed!
— You will definitely win (win)!
— It’s good that I have you!
«What do you think, son?»
— It’s great when you help!
“Tell me about your plans.”
— Mom and I love you very much.
You do unique things! (Draw, write, design)
You are our pride!
I don’t know about you, but such words bring a warm smile to my face, a desire to do and … happiness.
Inspire, dear parents, your children with the desire to live and love!
And your children will grow up brilliant!
PS If you continue the list of motivating phrases in the comments, you will be of great help to parents who, for starters, for training, really need good examples. Thank you.