There are women for whom it is not the slightest difficulty to turn a man’s head. Each of us has seen such women and can easily distinguish them in any company. Their talent for influencing the stronger sex is visible to the naked eye. And if it is visible, it may well be described in detail. What I will do now. And those interested in such an effect have a good chance to repeat everything described. Ready? Then remember!
The first rule of an enchantress: this woman is always in shape, in other words, she is a pleasure to look at! It is only by its appearance that it immediately attracts attention and evokes invigorating emotions.
Therefore, when you go out to people, always check — are you pleasing to the eye? If yes, you are great. This means that you have worked hard and poured energy into your Image. They didn’t just put something on themselves and somehow combed their hair, but they created something beautiful — in color, in shape, in smell … — like a real creator.
Never be lazy to sculpt an impressive Image! You must be like a flower. Which? You choose. But a flower, not a gray mouse or a uniformed soldier. This is the first step to ensure that men’s eyes are happy to stop at you.
The next step in the art of charming with far-reaching plans is the ability to easily show a man that he has attracted you — both intellectually and, attention, physically!
How?
With your eyes wide open, absorbing information, while listening to this man who attracted you, be sure to add body language: create in him a subconscious feeling that you, your body, are, as it were, a magnet, well, just against your will, drawn to him.
And there are very simple steps for this.
Smile When you listen to your man, have a slight smile on your lips. Yes, the magic of a smile is known to everyone, but now you know more about it: a smile should play on your lips, which you hold back, put out, and it just flares up!
U-turn. Turn fully towards the man, face to face, nose to nose. Keep your body and arms open, in a free relaxed position. And a little bewitched, lean towards him. Then, embarrassedly, adjust your position a little, but still stand or sit a little closer to him than usual.
Touch Gently, casually, touch his hand. Lose your balance a little and lean back.
Eye contact. A gaze, a little glued on, as if forgotten in its boldness, wandering over the face and caressing. A look, as if stretching like a magnet, against the will))), periodically recollecting and hiding.
Lungs head nods.
Connect your speech to body language: your task is to show with the help of words — understanding, agreement, empathy. Do this with aha sounds and phrases of approval, while using his name. Include phrases such as «I see what you mean», «Yes, you were right», «I can imagine» in your conversation.
Along with empathy, gradually turn on your admiration. For example: “Yes, you really did a lot to achieve this. This is impressive!”, “Super, you did a great job with the situation. Congratulations!”, “Did you say that?! Not everyone would have had the guts to do that,” or “Did you really do it? It’s strong!» «This is a genius move!»
In order to continue the intellectual-physical bewitchment of the man you like, do not forget, as carefully as you listen to him, to observe his reactions to external stimuli and demonstrate the same emotions that he gives in to — surprise, disgust, laughter, compassion, shock.
Engage in the same activities. Suppose you are a company at a large festive event, and some stranger, maybe having gone over by the end of the evening, clumsily stumbled not far from you, landed somehow unsuccessfully and funny. Look at the man’s reaction. Did he laugh? Coldly ignored what was happening? Did you get up from your seat to calmly help the fallen person to get up from the floor?
Do you agree with him in his feelings? Manifest them.
What else brings two people together? You have a chance to attract the attention of the person you like with your attention to some minor touches and facts of his life. Learn to remember any small intimate details during a conversation. If at the beginning of your conversation a man mentioned that he does not like breakfast, or, conversely, the coffee is always the same type for breakfast, mention this later. If during a conversation he mentions that he once wore a sweater to work back to front, make sure that this episode pops up again in one of your conversations. After some time, such simple mentions of seemingly insignificant events seriously bring you closer to the one about whom you remember all these “little things”.
Exclusive — for personal use — jokes bring together and create electricity between two people even more.
Lovers always have jokes like this. They whisper phrases in each other’s ears that mean nothing to anyone in the world but themselves. And we all know about it — if people laugh and wink at something only they understand, then they are very close. Take advantage of this knowledge! To create an exclusive joke for your couple, you should, when your new acquaintance tells the story to you personally or to a group of people, remember her moments that clearly gave him pleasure. Then build a phrase (take it from the context of the story) that, when mentioned, activates this momentous event in his memory.
Here is a short story about the creation of such an exclusive joke by an observant girl:
“I first noticed Ivan at a party, when he told the audience about his trip to the mountains with a group of beginner climbers. During the ascent, they had an unexpectedly difficult situation. They came to a very steep mountain slope covered with moving stones. He and his comrades were not very eager to climb this dangerous slope on the route, but, of course, none of these guys, including Ivan himself, could admit to themselves and their companions that they were a little crazy. Ivan had a large thermos with hot tea in his backpack. When the brave climbers stood looking thoughtfully at the top of the mountain, he made a suggestion: «Let’s have a cup of tea first.» Great idea! The men sat down, and squatting and sipping tea, worked out another, safer route. Ivan did not focus too much on this, but the main essence of this story was that he saved the day and, perhaps, even their lives with his phrase: «Let’s drink a cup of tea first.»
Later at this party, Ivan suggested that the owner turn on the TV to find out the results of the basketball match that was shown in the evening. The people at the party took the idea sourly. I winked at Ivan and said: «Let’s have a cup of tea first.» He laughed and, from that moment, he clearly singled me out from everyone.
Without describing detailed stories, I am writing you for example phrases that have become the same code jokes for life — “It’s all about the sieve!”, “We will buy these earrings!”, “And Vasya and I will come now.”
In this short article, I focused on eleven ways that allow you to arouse initial interest in your person, notice you, distinguish you from the crowd, and remember you. These techniques, even if they are known, still bring people closer to each other. Because these are not tricks — this is warm, attentive communication with a person, during which he is in the very center of your attention. You show it to him with your eyes, face, whole body, words, intonation and even gait. And it’s great!
I wrote the article for girls, but these methods of demonstrating maximum attention are also suitable for young men. They are simply performed in a different style. Men like men. Women for women. For men, in the art of capturing the attention of the opposite sex, appearance also plays a significant role. But the goals for creating their Image for men will be different, in any case, they do not need to be like a flower)))). Right? Likewise, in a smile, and a touch, admiration and a demonstration of empathy, there will be nuances in performance. If someone does not feel the nuances himself, then I discuss them and help to master them already at personal consultations, in the coaching format.
In the meantime, I have given guidance on where to develop in the art of total charm. Now the only thing left is to adopt these listed methods and implement them in your life. Get started! You will become an order of magnitude more attractive if you master at least two or three.
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I have a friend. Far from beautiful, just quite pleasant-looking. VERY smart (I won’t mention my profession, but take my word for it) and this doesn’t bother her in any way, quite the contrary. When she’s in the company of men, I can see and feel the men start to spread over the chairs and blow bubbles. Just a funny picture! What makes her so irresistible?
— The manner of speaking (soft, without aggressive conviction, without harsh intonations).
— Smiling, even some kind of periodic daydreaming (for example, often, thinking, smiles and looks somewhere up there in the sky).
— Knows how to listen, ask, encourage a man to speak, speak, speak.
— There is no negative. At the same time, there are very strong, well-reasoned opinions. But not by the method of «pouring mud» on the opinion of the opponent, but simply a rationally presented argument. The phrases “not quite convinced, not sure” instead of a sharp emotional expression of a position.
Often calls men by their first names.
There is some tenderness in her. But not syrupy, not sugary, not sushi-pusi, but beautiful, proud, self-aware tenderness. Royal, with a sense of great dignity (although in private conversations she confessed in complexes).
— Looks into the eyes. And by the way, about the last point. The topic may not be sexual at all, but it will look you in the eyes and say something with such intonation that you feel naked sex in the room with your skin. The vibes come from her. It beckons, calls, but is not imposed. Quite the opposite. In general, I always mentally applaud and admire her. A bewitching girl.
“You just can’t get close to her.”