From shyness to self-confidence

The first step to solving a problem is recognizing the problem. Let’s be honest, although miracles do happen in our lives, they are quite rare (that’s why they are miracles). So, in most cases, in order to achieve something, you need to make a real effort and move towards your goal. Including if the task is to overcome excessive shyness and shyness, which can hardly contribute to success and development. What distinguishes a person who is full of confidence in his strengths and abilities from someone who constantly doubts himself? The latter, on the contrary, seek to fence themselves off from frightening, even interesting, tasks and opportunities, agree to less than they are capable of. However, building and developing self-confidence can sometimes be a daunting task. It’s one thing to know the importance of being confident in your abilities, but it’s another thing to become that person, especially when you’re embarrassed to announce a bus stop or call a delivery service to order a pizza. The inevitable question arises: what to do and who is to blame? The answer lies. Self-confident people do not doubt their ability to cope with a problem (task) regardless of the circumstances. Faced with difficulty, they know that they can turn the situation in a beneficial direction for them. Instead of obsessing over or constantly fearing a problem, they learn from experience, “pump” their skills and develop a pattern of behavior that will lead to success. This does not mean at all that a self-confident person is alien to the pain of disappointment or rejection of something, but he knows how to go through it with dignity, not allowing the situation to negatively affect the future. It is important to develop the skill of quickly recovering from failures and not depending on external factors to increase self-esteem. Sure, it’s nice to receive praise from your boss or a prestigious award in your industry, but by relying only on the recognition of others, you limit your potential and the extent to which you can influence the future. Deep-rooted confidence comes from two things: . Such awareness takes time. We propose to consider a number of practical recommendations for the short term. The very fact of finding and knowing your natural talents, dispositions and passions magically increases your confidence and self-respect. Start by thinking about what fascinates you, what goal captures your spirit. Perhaps a part of you will whisper “You are not capable of this”, be adamant, write down your positive qualities on a piece of paper that will help you achieve what you want. For example, you have found your ambition – writing movie scripts. At first glance, this seems impossible, but once you put everything on the shelves, as you understand: all that is required of you is a passion for cinema, a creative streak and the ability to write stories, all of which you have. We tend to underestimate our abilities, despite the fact that this is impractical and generally fundamentally wrong. Think of a specific accomplishment, like landing your first job or passing a tough exam. Analyze what you did to make it happen? Was it your persistence, some special skill or approach? Your abilities and qualities can certainly be applied in achieving the following goals. The habit that kills many people is the constant comparison of oneself with others. You are you, so stop comparing yourself to other people to the point where you lose self-respect. The first step to getting rid of shyness is the complete acceptance of yourself as you are, with positive and not so qualities. Push your boundaries and limits little by little, step by step. You will be surprised at the ability of a person to adapt to different new conditions! Go to public places, exhibitions, meetings, festivals and events, make it a part of life. As a result, you will begin to notice how you become more and more comfortable, and shyness goes somewhere. Remember, staying within your comfort zone means you don’t change, and as such, being shy won’t go away. Rejection is a normal part of life. One way or another, throughout life we ​​meet people whose interests and values ​​do not converge with ours, or employers who do not see us as part of their team. And this, again, is normal. Learn not to take such situations as a personal affront, but only as an opportunity for growth. Body language has a direct correlation with how we feel. If you stand hunched over, shrank from your shoulders and with your head down, you will automatically feel insecure and, as it were, ashamed of yourself. But try to straighten your back, straighten your shoulders, proudly raise your nose and walk with a confident gait, as you yourself will not notice that you feel like a much more worthy and courageous person. It also takes time, but, rest assured, it’s time. Close people and true friends motivate us and, at times, force us to leave our comfort zone.

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