For the co-sleeping:
Vanessa, Mum of Théo, 4 years old (Parents’ Facebook)
“Before pregnancy, I was anti-co-sleep! I did not understand these mothers who were “prisoners” of their offspring, I found that selfish, even bordering on unhealthy! When my son was born, everything went very badly. After that, he was crying a lot, needed to be against me, to feel rocked, carried. Breastfeeding was a failure, it was exhausted, and the midwives little invested! Finally, I only had the co-sleep left to soothe him. And there, what a relief! Seeing our child smile to the angels, relaxed and peaceful, it saved us. It helped me get through my baby blues, to take care of this disaster delivery. The dad was not for the start, but when he saw the crazy good that it brought to our little angel, he capitulated. However, our sexuality has not suffered. Probably because for us it was not limited to the evening or to the bed. We have managed to flourish as a couple and as parents. Today, our son is approaching his 4 years old and is doing wonderfully. He is sociable and fulfilled, what happiness! “
Against the co-sleeping:
Pauline, Mother of Théo, 2 years old
“When I left the maternity ward, we decided with Arnaud, her daddy, to make Juliette sleep with us. We were all three in our little cocoon, it was an incredibly tender period. After a few weeks, Arnaud was so exhausted that he went to sleep on the sofa so that he would no longer be woken up by the feedings. Over the days, Juliette spent her nights with me, and Arnaud in the living room. He would come and kiss us both tenderly and go to sleep. Everything seemed to be going well between us, we were a very close family. The only problem was that we didn’t sleep together anymore, but I was sure it would come back. When Juliette finally agreed to sleep in her room, at a year and a half, Arnaud returned to the marital bed, but he remained distant. A gap had been created between us, the 9 months of pregnancy, plus the 18 months of bed apart got the better of our sexuality. And to finish our couple, because he met another woman and we separate. “