Sociopaths and narcissists live among us. These are very skillful pretenders, seemingly quite normal and even pleasant people, until you get to know them better. An unsightly entity is given out by characteristic phrases: they use them to make people doubt their own adequacy.
Has it occurred to you that among your acquaintances there may be narcissists or sociopaths? How to crack them? All sociopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are sociopaths. Let’s try to figure it out.
Although these personality types are similar in many ways, there are different motives behind what they do and say. Sociopaths strive to control every breath, narcissists demand that they devote time and attention. Nevertheless, both use the same tricks to pull the leash harder.
These people have five phrases that bring normal people to hysterics.
1. I hate scenes. They will claim that they hate scenes, but it will soon become clear that playing in front of an audience is their lifestyle. First, they will sing praises and praise your easy-going nature. Remember, these are pathological liars, serial scammers, and perpetual victims. After a while the qualities will come out and cause confusion. If you hint that you are upset or upset, they will announce that they hate tragic scenes and behave so disgustingly that you will feel even worse. In the end, they will make you feel like an unsurpassed actor.
2. You… Replace the dots with the correct one. Crazy, two-faced, jealous, spiteful, obsessed with me – the list is endless. Insults begin when the relationship is already going downhill. Initially, they say that all their exes, colleagues and friends are psychos, two-faced, jealous, spiteful and still obsessed with them. However, they maintain contact with these nightmarish people, thereby creating chaos. Then you, too, are enrolled in a “bunch of jerks”, because of which complexes appear and self-esteem decreases. By humiliating, they justify their toxic behavior.
3. How sensitive you are! They get tired of pleasing someone with compliments and flattery pretty quickly, so they will ignore you for several days, waiting for a reaction. When you give up, you will immediately be accused of being overly sensitive or obsessive.
They will bully, devalue and criticize, sometimes teasing or joking, until you say everything you think. For them, this is an excuse to twist everything as if you are delirious. In a few weeks, they are able to turn a calm, good-natured person into a ball of nerves, which is tormented by fears and self-doubt.
4. You misunderstood (a). We all sometimes do not quite understand what people want to say. But narcissists and sociopaths deliberately talk nonsense to unsettle. This is called gaslighting: doing or saying something on purpose and then claiming you misunderstood or denying that it really happened. In fact, you all perfectly understood. They are just trying to make you doubt your own adequacy.
5. Yes, you will be lost without me. This is the craving of such people. Their manipulative phrases and actions are designed to make you believe it. But they don’t do this because they want a healthy relationship. The main goal is total control and domination, and they achieve this by making them feel “out of their element”. Do not allow yourself to be treated like this, you can handle and live without them.
Source: Higherperspectives.com