Five chairs. An exercise

The Five Chairs is an exercise to help participants set goals for managing emotions. On the other hand, it is a test that determines the level of emotion control and, more broadly, the level of personality development.

Introductory

In front of you are five chairs, on each of which is a piece of paper describing a certain level of emotion control. These five chairs are your five choices.

The first chair: the person who chooses it is “natural” both internally and externally. He can neither control his inner world nor the outer expression of his emotions; he experiences what “came”, and at the same time the expression on his face is appropriate.

I can’t manage either internal experiences or external expression: emotions appear in the soul on their own, triggered by various reasons: the state of the body, life events, and what people around them say and do. My emotions live some kind of separate life and splash out against my will. I am not responsible for my emotions, the “Good” exercise seems impossible to me.

The second chair: the person who has chosen it cannot control his internal weather, but he can partially control his external manifestations.

Internal experiences are beyond my control, while I can manage the external expression of emotions when there is relative order inside. External «Good» is not always the case, especially inside.