The first time for both young women and boys entering masculinity is an important experience, often associated with doubts of various nature, fear or simple curiosity. The motives leading to the first intercourse may be different and are conditioned by the individual approach of young people. They are tormented by various questions: do I really want it, does she, he love me, how much will it hurt me, is the chosen method of contraception appropriate, will I not get pregnant, will I prove myself as a man. They both enter an unknown and undiscovered world, they will cross a border that can no longer be restored.
What to do to make this first time an amazing, safe and nostalgic event?
The most important thing is to think and plan everything carefully. Consider all possible situations that may happen to you. Consider emergency scenarios to be prepared to deal with the problem if necessary. Only then will you both be sure that it is a well-thought-out, well-considered and good decision. Get to know your own body, it will allow you to avoid embarrassment in front of your partner and will allow you to deal with the complexes that everyone has. Looking at yourself naked in the mirror every day will help. After a few days, the embarrassment of your own nakedness will be replaced by satisfaction with your own appearance. If you are not so shy, caress each other, touch each other, it will let you know your reactions and prepare you well for the big, expected finale. protect yourselves! This is the most important thing you both need to think about.
A visit to the gynecologist can help a young, lost woman entering previously unknown territory. The doctor will help to dispel doubts about contraception, professionally answer tormenting questions and appropriately select hormonal contraception, if one is chosen. It will also dispel the doubts bothering most young women regarding the fear of pain during the first intercourse.
Also use a condom, hormonal contraception will protect you from pregnancy, and a condom is an additional health insurance policy. It is an excellent protection against sexually transmitted diseases: HIV, hepatitis C, hepatitis B, or venereal diseases. Sometimes even the best protection may not be effective, the condom may slip off, it may break, then a plan B is possible – the pill after. The most important thing then is time, its greatest effectiveness is achieved within 24 hours after intercourse.
The most important question you both should ask yourself is this why do you want intercourse? Your feelings and the bond between you are important, it is worth talking about it to make sure that you want to become one is absolute. Then you will avoid unnecessary remorse and mutual accusations. You have to be sure that you want it equally, there are no understatements between you. In a situation where one of the parties is pushing and pressures you to have sex, you don’t have to force yourself. If you feel this is not the time, wait. The first time will remain a magical, unforgettable experience only if you both desire it.