Find the good, scoop out the good

​​​​​​​Finding the good, scooping out the positives is an important life skill for maintaining inner positivity.

Well, I can’t find a positive in the fact that my friend had an accident, and if I find it, it will be some kind of perverted, negative positive. I don’t want to deceive myself.

Indeed, what is positive about the fact that a friend, having an accident, survived? That those he encountered were still alive? Is this joy for you and me? Here to grieve, yes, this is a real joy … Right?

The event is not written down how you experience it, and one of the objectives of the exercise is to stop playing dramatizations that turn events into Problems and Troubles.

Can everything in life be seen as «Good»? Do not stop yourself with this metaphysical question, do not strain yourself beyond reason, such as children’s horror stories “Now, if they cut off your ears, put them in boiling oil and tickle you,” and let, at least for a start, your “good” applies only to regular, ordinary events in your life.

I bought a bun with poppy seeds. Good? The bun was without poppy seeds. Will we cry?

One of the secrets of success here is to develop the inner spiritual “good”. With a weak internal «good», the reaction to the world «good» requires justification: «good because». “A blue spring flowed in the yard. Alenka will arrive in the evening. Great!» If your inner “good” gets stronger, it will always and freely come out of you: even with justification, even without. «I’m alive. Good!». You are alive — what other justifications are needed?

The first reaction to anything that happens is to say “Good!” at least as a fact of accepting the event. At home, get into the habit of writing about what is good. The more difficult the event, the more carefully look for it well and note all the details. To make it clearer well — imagine, could it be worse? Usually it can always be worse, so thank life for what happened, only what happened. And by the way, imagine if something more difficult happened — how would you ask the world for something else to happen?

Let’s say you’re walking your dog and you stumble and fall on the pavement. Good? Good. Refrain from angry shouting and swearing, exhale and say: «Good.» And if you didn’t believe in it well, then at home write ten points why it’s really good. (They scratched their nose — it’s good that they didn’t break it. The day before training … — it’s good that it wasn’t the day before the exam. And so on).

An exercise can be considered worked out when the positive in what is happening is seen immediately, and not retroactively, when you meet the series of events in your life by default with a bright “Good”, and only then, if necessary, you can find pluses to them. Well, if you don’t find it, don’t be upset, let your “good” live without important justifications. Let him live — just like that!

Tips & Tricks

It will be easier if you follow not only your soul, but also your speech. Eliminate the words «trouble», «problems», «nightmare» and other horror words from it. What positive words can you appropriately use instead?

In addition to speech, watch your face. The habit of frowning dissatisfied eyebrows will be a hindrance to you, and a bright smile will help you. Learn more about how your body affects your mental state.