The male form of attention in relation to the woman he likes is the involvement of a woman in some process. At the same time, the man longs for the woman to fully listen to him in the process, opening her mouth and agreeing with all his arguments! Accepted his information, initiatives and instructions unconditionally!
In other words, showed him the feminine form of attention!
And for this, a relationship-minded man uses one great trick: he is looking for ways — to give impressions!
Therefore, a man in a relationship that he very actively maintains and develops is always the initiator and always offers to show interest in something new, where, in his opinion, new impressions may arise, for example:
Honey, let’s go to the cinema!
— Why don’t we go to Antalya for a week?!
— Today the Sokolovs are invited to dinner, will we have time for seven?
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But it depends on the woman — will she support the man’s initiatives? Does she know that these are signs of his loving attention, and she can both strengthen this sexual predisposition to each other, and at the root.
And sometimes a woman ignorant of this may be indifferent to the proposals of a man, perceiving them simply as proposals, and not as signs of male care and loving attention:
— No, dear, these militants tire me. I want to stay at home.
— And what have I lost in this Turkey! There you always don’t know where to get away from their all-inclusives!
— Sokolovs? These boring intellectuals? Let them say thank you that we visit them at all!
So we talked … What is the result?
A woman who does not support a man for a long time in the proposed involvement becomes a source of discomfort for him, and gradually he stops winning her attention. A man who has relaxed and stopped involving a woman in the sphere of his interests, who does not give her new impressions, in turn, causes deep disappointment in her.
A woman considers weak that man who could not convince her to listen to him. A man considers a bitch a woman who is not involved in his proposals. So we talked … two people who are not familiar with the psychology of the sexes.
In the field of sex, this law of showing attention to each other also works: a man actively offers new experiences, a woman responds with interest and accepts. Interaction in this way means that a man and a woman are attentive to each other.
At the stage of falling in love, people are so attuned to each other that a man knows how to offer something one hundred percent interesting to a woman, and a woman is very, very interested in almost everything that comes from a man.
With further interaction, this wonderful scheme of active and mutual attention to each other often fails, men are not so attentive to see and take into account women’s interests, women are not so loyal as to enthusiastically support any male initiative. Where does this lead? To a feeling of lack of attention — both in women and in men.
Which exit? Both women and men should know and remember what female and male attention looks like. Men should turn on activity and empathy, show greater interest in cooperation, women should turn on gratitude and appreciation, at the slightest attempt by a man to involve her in some process, and learn to get involved with enthusiasm and creativity in various processes offered by a man. Also, learn to clearly communicate about the processes in which she would like to be involved with her partner!
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.