Women, more than men, want to be in a relationship, and women often experience the absence of a close man as their loneliness and inferiority. Female loneliness is more of a feeling than a reality, since in reality the lifestyle of “single women” in fact may not be much different from the lifestyle of women who have a family.
This desire to complain, which children also have: “Mom, everyone has a Barbie, only I don’t! Nothing to play at all!” — despite the fact that she has half a room of toys.
It is rather a game of melancholy, because the sadness of female loneliness is played more often by those women who sit and wait for the prince, instead of looking for contacts and being open to contacts. Complaining and feeling sorry for yourself is easier and more habitual than launching an active search for a partner. Telling that “there are no decent men” is easier than keeping a figure, always being attractive and, most importantly, always keep a smile on your face and positive in your soul.
If you’re single, decide what you choose: complain or change your life? Fence off from men — thoughts, words, face and behavior — or look for new acquaintances? Stay at home or go to trainings where you will be taught to be attractive to men and able to build close relationships?
Women can confuse themselves very easily, and if she has as much order in her head as in her purse, she will soon stop noticing how she unconsciously resists any changes in her life.
And really, why change anything? I feel so comfortable at home, without any strangers, to talk sincerely — it’s just as easier with a friend than with men, I have financial independence, and complaining about life is my favorite topic in communicating with my mother.
While you sit at home and feel sorry for yourself, you reinforce your habit of living alone. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop complaining about your loneliness and start doing something!
Your approximate three-year plan:
The first year is to put yourself in order. Figure, wardrobe, straighten your head, start developing new habits, learn attractiveness. That’s it, I won’t be a klush, I live actively and smile. I am resuming social activity, but I am not actively looking for men yet. I choose a strategy: am I a bitch or an elite woman?
The second year — I go hunting. I find myself in places where there are decent men↑, I make and promote contacts. By the end of the year, I decide who is promising↑.
Year three — building relationships. “To get married — do not attack, no matter how married you are not to be lost!” — it’s not a problem to move in together, the task is to establish relations so that they suit both of us and for a long time.
A story about female loneliness
“… In a certain kingdom, in a certain state, there lived two girls: Elena the Beautiful and Elena the Wise …” Good tale, read it!