If a girl begins to be afraid, she can fantasize anything for herself. Will we go this route?
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One of the goofy thinking mistakes is to be guided by fears and emotions.
A decent man made me an offer, everything seems to be wonderful … What if he only needs a registration from me? And it’s scary to decide.
A so-so man calls me to marry, but … What if I don’t get married at all? Then it’s scary to say no…
Fears and emotions paint pictures that change the situation in the bud, but then — how to navigate? On the other hand, all this can happen, right? So, it is necessary to consider such possibilities as well… How to be here?
The answer is that it is reasonable and necessary to consider a variety of possibilities, but it is a mistake to immediately draw conclusions from them. Why? Apply it to business, you will understand.
You need to hire a person for the position of leader. One, let’s call him Ivan, is reasonable, efficient, decent and experienced. The other, let’s call him Barsanuphius, was inexperienced, a thief and emotionally unstable. Who to take? It seems to be obvious. But «There are no recipes for a good life!». Fantasy 1: But you took Ivan, Ivan went on vacation to India, so he became infected with a terrible virus, re-infected all your employees with it, and from experiences he became generally inadequate. Fantasy 2: What if it happens that Varsonofy, as an emotional person, began to worry about his theft, realized that this job was his last chance and completely changed, while he is very sociable, easily builds relationships with people and quickly learns new things case?
Then — who to take? The answer is Ivan. Because businessmen and other reasonable people take into account not only the POSSIBILITIES, but also consider the PROBABILITIES of the EVENT. And if one event is highly probable and the other is low probable, then low probable fantasies are removed from consideration. And make decisions based on highly probable events.
When preparing a champion, the coach takes the most capable, and not those who are sorry. Theoretically, anything can happen, but so far, disabled people win only at the Paralympic Games.
If, on the other hand, we consider the possibility of low-probability events and, on the basis of this, say “There are no right decisions,” this is the most direct road to any fraud. What if aliens arrive? What if you are a German spy? When such fraud is done against us, we are indignant. When we see how a woman with increased anxiety, all in tears, cannot find a place for herself, when her daughter is 15 minutes late home, we sigh heavily: well, women are emotional …
But let’s not make these mistakes ourselves. Perhaps there are no recipes for the only correct life, but this is not a reason to go into fantasy when a decision needs to be made. Anything can happen, but don’t let your fears and emotions lead you into rigging.
Focus on business. Count the risks: multiply the significance of an event by its probability, and if an event is very unlikely, cross it out! After that, the most reasonable solution is almost always obvious.