Being afraid of being pregnant… This is what happens to cereal women. What is this hiding? How to explain this fear? How to overcome it?

While some only dream of nursing from an early age, some women are not tempted by motherhood. For some, this fear of being pregnant corresponds to a fear of losing their freedom, their carelessness, that it disrupts their career, their life as a couple or even the fear of having the responsibility of another being. he can

also happen that their companion does not want to have a child or not very wanting which leads to the fear of rupture in the event of pregnancy. Other women are afraid of pregnancy, of gaining weight, of seeing their figure change, of giving birth, of suffering. For others, finally, the fear of pregnancy refers to their childhood, to possible traumas: they were not wanted, not loved, even mistreated and may have reproduced this pattern.

A distinction should be made between fear of being pregnant and fear of unwanted pregnancy. If you do not want to have children, you have a late period, and you know you took a risk (condom that has cracked, forgetting the pill, etc.), your anxiety is that of an unwanted pregnancy. On the other hand, if you want to have a child but you are anxious at the idea of ​​being pregnant, to the point of even delaying a pregnancy project, it is indeed a fear of being pregnant. It is therefore necessary to understand why.

If you also want to be pregnant while being afraid of pregnancy, try to figure out where the anxieties are coming from. Is it a fear of physical changes? Doubt about your companion’s ability to insure a child? Afraid of losing your freedom? A fear related to your childhood or a traumatic event? For example, women who have experienced a succession of bereavements may fear losing another loved one: their child.

To overcome a number of anxieties, you can talk to moms. Your mom, your sisters or your friends who are already mom will be able to reassure you on a certain number of points: yes, we find its line; no, childbirth is not that bad… Your partner can also reassure you. Talk to him about your desire but also about your fears. If he doesn’t want a child, explain to him that your desire is very strong.

You can also discuss the medical aspects of pregnancy and childbirth with your gynecologist. Finally, when the fear of being pregnant is linked to your experience, or when the pregnancy becomes a phobia, it may be useful to talk about it with a psychiatrist or a psychologist.