Becoming a father is a great adventure, especially when it comes to a little girl. The benchmarks will be different, the needs perhaps too. The man who will have the role of protector and of the one who listens… it is now.

Baby, a little girl has the same needs as a little boy. No need to cover it with dolls or pink. An infant just needs your presence, bottles when hungry, and contact. Changing diapers will be all the easier as there is no risk of getting wet. The vulva needs to be cleaned well, gently because the inner lips are fragile.

Bathing, eating, rocking her, are important moments in the first moments of life, because they allow the dad to come into contact and get to know each other. The one who will become one of the women in her life needs to smell her, hear her voice, touch her beard or the hair on her arms.

The first smiles will be a shared joy. The father has his own interests and his own way of interacting with his daughter. He is not there to be the replica of the mother, but on the contrary, his role is to ensure his role of father, that is to say with his deep voice, his desires (sport, music, barbecue, cut Euro, etc.) and he will train his daughter to share his passions. For her, it will be enriching, and allow her to discover another world than the one she had shared until now exclusively with her mother during the 9 months of pregnancy.

To become close to your daughter, you just have to play and chat. Play according to her tastes, but also make her discover other activities, which can be very varied:

• play ball;
• tinker with small wooden tools (learn to type);
• go for walks, the opportunity to meet other dads at the park;
• paint, draw;
• go to a music store, listen to the instruments;
• etc.

Complicity can also be maintained through rituals. Every Tuesday evening, it’s daddy who reads the story, or every Sunday we peel the potatoes together to make fries.

For a little girl, her father is the first man of her life and it is with this model that she will build herself. Each father will show what seems important to him, in a man: to listen to her, to protect her, to encourage her, to consider her as the equal of a boy … All these values ​​will allow him to feel confident and empowered. move forward in life by considering the male world as an ally.

As Marcel Rufo explains, a child is built by idealizing his father. Even if deep down, she will never be completely fooled, it allows her to overcome her fears. “It is so essential for a child to have a heroic father, that in the less gifted or the most pathetic, she will often succeed in finding a quality, however minimal, which will allow her to see him glorious, even intermittently “.

This strength is transmitted to him like a sword, and in the playground, the little girls compare their armor: “My daddy, he makes burgers better than at a restaurant”. “Me, my father, he even knows how to blow bubbles with his nose…”.

No need to put pressure on yourself, a simple presence, but how important, will be enough to make the father look like a hero, in the eyes of his little girl. “The role of the father is to don this garment, knowing full well that it floats in it and that it will be taken away one day”.

Because yes, fathers must take advantage of this moment of grace, because this illusion unfortunately does not last their entire life.

There will come a time when the little girl, cradled in the crook of her arm, and who mumbled “I love you my daddy, very, very very loudly” will have grown up. Reassured by a daddy present and sure of himself, she observed the flaws and doubts too.

Adolescence marks the separation of this bubble of complicity to allow the young girl to form her own notion of the pair she wishes to form, or not, with another man. Fathers may then feel a little sidelined, even criticized in their actions, but if the bond is solid, listening and discussions will make it possible to get through the crisis.

A teenager will need to make up her own mind, what she has received, what she wants to keep, what she no longer wants. For the father, it is then a question of remaining straight in his own values ​​while accepting that his daughter evolves.

A relationship of mutual tenderness can then be established and the exchanges become adults.