So, the dreams of science fiction-fatalists, as well as the gloomy aunt from the registry office, with a special expression pronouncing the phrase “until death do you part,” have come true! You and your husband found yourself alone in an apartment without the possibility of running away and getting lost at the Luzhniki stadium, among 50 thousand of those who love the Golden Ring group. Now the golden ring has found you at home – and besieged. It is not clear when this will end, but it is clear that next to you was a kind of well-known, but somewhat new man. Who keeps asking where his T-shirt and socks are and slams the refrigerator door even though he just ate. You are faced with a whole male world. Congratulations, your real family life has just begun! But do not despair. I have tips for you that will help you keep your mental health, and your husband life.
1. Run to the balcony
It all starts early in the morning. He will get up either much earlier than you, or he will lie uselessly for a long time after you have already got up. Both infuriates equally strongly and, perhaps, would infuriate less if he did not go to bed in the same way in the evening.
What to do? Saying to yourself, like a children’s counting rhyme, the phrase: “Crown, crown, get out of the balcony!”, go out onto the balcony or into the fresh air all alone. To do this, you will have to wade through the cordon of your husband and children without being distracted by them, but it’s worth it. See how beautifully the sun rises. See what wonderful hands you have and how much they can do! No, do not look at a manicure that needs to be fixed, but your beautician does not accept. See above, where the hand is holding the coffee cup. No husband can ruin such a beautiful day for you. As long as there is sun and coffee, you will live!
2. The whole truth about soap
Your secret wish has come true! You finally know exactly where he is and what he is doing! But, as it turned out, much less happens in his boring life than you fantasized. Just so much less that you want to feel sorry for him. And to introduce some girl, or something, the time has come, judging by the age … At this time, you will straighten yourself up, remembering that he already has a girlfriend and no one but you will be interested in him anyway. Let him appreciate it.
What to do? Leave him to do his boring ridiculous activities. Men cope with stress worse than women because of the peculiarities of the psyche from the series “either I break this wall, or she breaks me!”. The argument that it can be bypassed in two meters is not accepted. Let him do what relaxes him during this period.
3. Keep him busy
I will make a reservation right away – you cannot stand that your man is at home, but does nothing about the housework. Therefore, it is better to immediately discuss what exactly he will do around the house. Quarantine is the best time to show a man what a house is made of and that dishes don’t clean themselves and food doesn’t cook itself. Prepare ammonia, not all men will be able to withstand it. Be prepared to put up with the fact that at first plates will fall from his fragile paws, and pasta, on the contrary, will not fall, but will wave their tails that are firmly stuck to the wall. But don’t give up. It is much worse for your psyche to watch your spouse doing nothing.
What to do? During the quarantine, we will have to unite. You are on one Titanic, not like one is on the Titanic and the other is on an iceberg. Distribute responsibilities together so that the Titanic does not sink. Vigorous activity saves from insanity. Being stuck at home and being stuck at home with meaning when it turns out that you are needed at home are, as they say in Odessa, two big differences.
4. Tidy up
Clutter and lack of personal space. What is the relationship between these seemingly disparate concepts? The fact is that when we have the opportunity to move freely, we feel free from restrictions. When there is no opportunity to move around, this disadvantage can be compensated by scattered things. Thus, men (perhaps women too) express their desire for freedom and space, mark their territory, like raccoons.
What to do? Agree that your imprisonment is temporary. And just as in a prison cell they don’t throw a robe on a rack, since you will be in prison for another 5 years, so things are not scattered at home here and as a sign of respect for the place that has become your temporary place of detention, order is maintained. If your cellmate does not understand a simple speech, turn on the godfather and practice the concepts with him. There is no one to complain to this fraerka anyway (except you), so the sooner he learns the hierarchy of the closed space, the better for everyone. To make clearing things less traumatic, do something fun every day. Drive Chifir, for example.
Remember that those who have served time together become the closest people later. Therefore, it is better to serve together now and before you kill, and not after. All the more so with some, but a loved one.
View from the 6th floor
Fearless or reckless?
Are we really that fearless? Is this our famous maybe or what is it?
Europeans say: because Our Country has not yet realized the scale of the problem. But, in my opinion, everyone realized too well. And all because we are not a prosperous Europe. We have calm periods of calm over the past 30 years can be counted on the fingers of one hand. We are not used to it if everything is fine. I understand why these Western wise men can’t figure out the riddle of the people. We just non-stop live in the conditions of this dangerous life, we will not be scared by the loss of our usual comfort. We have already lost the whole country several times. We also have a defense mechanism that is very rare in the West. people, in the face of any confusion, immediately look at a specific reality: so, there is a house, there is buckwheat, the light is on, the TV is on, they are not kicked out of the apartment, they are not sent to the stage for anything, which means that we can live, we can handle it.
But simple psychological techniques for stress and we will not interfere. So what to do:
- Ground yourself – that is, start doing something useful and understandable around the house, namely with your hands – paint the fence, transplant flowers, tie a scarf, whatever.
- It is important to move physically a lot. At least just walk around the house, burn adrenaline.
- Constantly sober yourself, reason. For example, when a spontaneous desire arises to do something, ask yourself the question: “Why am I doing this, who needs me to do this?” – and so on. We listen to ourselves, not to someone from outside.