Once the states were without laws, today any state has laws. The family is a small state. Do you already have your own legislation, your own Constitution?
Smart people, when creating a family, always discuss the Family Agreement questionnaire. And wise people also accept the Family Constitution, a set of regulations and rules governing the main issues of family life. When we have agreed on the most important, fundamental things, when we have our own Constitution, any specific issues are resolved more easily.
What people agree on according to the Family Agreement questionnaire (who earns how much, what time we get up, who washes the dishes, etc.) is different in each family, and the Family Constitution in all families familiar with the synton approach is the same.
Perhaps it is also suitable for your couple, if, of course, you are civilized people and, in principle, know how to keep agreements.
constitution and love
The family constitution governs relationships, not making love. It is impossible to demand love from a spouse based on the constitution. But you can demand that he behave properly, within the framework of reasonable agreements. And that is why, while strengthening relationships, the Family Constitution in fact protects love, takes care of love.
In the I + I family, the family constitution protects the interests of both partners, takes care of each of them, and in this sense replaces love. In the WE family, the family constitution protects love, strengthens love, gives it a strong foundation.