Family as a personal project of a man

Why does an established — and wealthy — man need a family? He has everything he needs for himself. He is respected, he stands firmly on his feet, he knows how to solve all his worldly problems. There are a lot of women around him, ready for almost anything — so why does such a man need a family?

I know one real answer to this question: the family is his personal project. His business, his world, his state: his universe, created according to his patterns. As a child, he built a city from cubes, and it was important for him to build the highest tower — the one he wanted and dreamed about. And today he is building his world, his family, where his beloved woman will always be happy. He wants to create his own dynasty, he wants to raise his daughter — brave, smart and beautiful, whom he will admire — and his son — a real man who will be better than him, who will continue his spirit and his work, who will raise such children who will even better than him and continue the work of his grandfather …

Not all men are passionate about designing and creating a world called family, but if it is expensive for a man, he will build a family according to his own project. He will do as he wants, or not at all. His family will have his religion — or a ban on religion, because this is his project and his family. He will raise his son the way he wants, like a man, because only such is his son. In his family, children will carry his values, otherwise they are not his children. In his family there will be his orders, or this family is simply of little interest to him.

You can call him a despot, but this is just his project. If you want to do something in your own way, do it, but not here: he is the master here. There is no disrespect for a woman here: he is just busy with his own business, and if a woman wants to participate in this business, she can join this on the terms of a man. But if she doesn’t want to, it’s her right: the man will just shrug his shoulders and continue to work on his project.

That’s all.

Yes, but there are two in the family, right? At least two? Right. Therefore, a man seeks a woman, seeks a woman, loves a woman — but a real man lives only with that woman who in his world will live on his terms.

Note that this is quite realistic: precisely because there are many women interested in the family, and fewer men. And not just less, but for cities this ratio is somewhere around 1 to 3. For one quality man interested in a family with a capital letter, there are three women interested in a quality family. And with such a ratio, under such conditions, women are already ready for almost everything — and this is wise, given that we are talking about accomplished — and wealthy — men.

The man will be the head of the family. And if a woman does not agree with this, soon one will appear in her place who will agree with this. This is a reality, and there is no more injustice here than in the fact that men still die before women. It’s not fair, but that’s how life works.

Dear men! If you are men, you will look for a woman who can understand your project, accept your project, and bring your project to life with you. But if you are real men, that is, loving and decent people, you will definitely warn the woman in advance about what lies ahead for her.

“I really, really like you. You are my joy and my song. But if you want to contact me seriously, then I want to warn you that it will be very difficult for you with me. If you want a normal man and a normal family by today’s standards, then you don’t need me, but someone else. I am very tough and demanding in life, I have very definite views on the family and raising children, and I do not plan to change them. Therefore, I propose to discuss the Family Agreement Questionnaire​​​​​​​​and think together: do you need such a difficult person as me?

This is a fair warning. And it seems to be a good way to find the woman you need!