Falling in love: sweet disease of soul and body

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Falling in love is a trance state of fascination and admiration, attraction and affection, a mixture of hormone chemistry and romantic infatuation. In fiction, as in everyday communication, falling in love is called love, considered a kind of love, although there is only an external resemblance between them. Falling in love, a sweet disease of the soul and body, is the most common and most striking fake for love.

Love and falling in love should not be confused, they are as different things as an exclusive work of a master and consumer goods from the market.

Are different types of love equivalent, are they equivalent? Can one say that one form or kind of love is more perfect than another? Is it possible to find the most perfect kind of love? All these are questions about the Formula of Love: a short formulation that expresses the essence of Love with a capital letter. See formula of love

The ability to love is an indicator of mental health and wealth, and the tendency to fall in love speaks, rather, of childhood personality traits, and in some cases, neurosis.

However, there are few who want to understand how falling in love differs from love, and falling in love has been and remains the most popular and popular topic of both fiction and psychological training. People want to fall in love, and even more — to fall in love with them. Falling in love is cool and status, and seeing people in love with you is doubly cool and status, so the pickup truck and the art of seduction always have their own passionately interested audience.

Admittedly, when falling in love is dressed up in the clothes of love, it is stunningly beautiful. The best works of art, the brightest poems and the most incredible follies are born of love — more precisely, love, which has risen, at least for a short time, to love.

Our dates every moment

We celebrated like an epiphany

Alone in the world. You were

Faster and lighter than a bird’s wing

Up the stairs like dizziness

Through the step ran and led

Through the wet lilac to your domain

On the other side of the mirror glass.

When the night came, I had mercy

Donated, altar gates

Opened, and glowed in the dark

And the nakedness slowly sank,

And, waking up: «Be blessed!» —

I spoke and knew that boldly

My blessing: you were sleeping

And touch the eyelids of the blue universe

The lilac reached out to you from the table,

And blue touched eyelids

They were calm, and the hand was warm.

Author Arseniy Tarkovsky

Falling in love is like a powerful medicine: it saves someone, kills someone, in any case it creates a lot of noise and emotions around itself. Falling in love at a certain age is not difficult — you don’t need a lot of mind, for this, first of all, you need a state of pre-love: a special nervous state when you really want to fall in love and are ready. Ready to fall in love. In English, it sounds literally: «fall in love.» In Russian, it is formulated in different ways: “I fell in love with her”, “I fell for her”, “I went nuts from him”, “she blows my mind” …

No matter how mysterious falling in love may seem, it usually arises according to a fairly standard formula. Namely, Falling in love = Pre-love + Imprinting the Beloved + Promotion of the experience of love. Unfortunately, according to the same standard formula, falling in love usually ends: addiction — disappointment — showdown. A romantic passion lasts a maximum of three years, then the body gets used to it and the chemistry ceases to act. That is why linking love and something serious, such as a family, is rather dangerous. “Love” has passed, the tomatoes have withered, and you have news: you are already expecting a baby …

Love is like a wild, unbroken stallion. From a distance — beautiful, close — scary. An inexperienced rider on such a stallion will demolish half the yard, trample those around him, and eventually break his neck. An experienced fighter from such a stallion will raise his best horse … — so, love can grow out of love, and only such love can burn all his life.

Love is less common than falling in love and requires more depth and wisdom from a person. Love, as a reflection of culture, must be nurtured in oneself. To fall in love, it is enough to be healthy. There is a lot to be learned in order to be loving and to love. Love needs to be learned, and love needs to grow. But just as a journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step, so the road to love begins, as a rule, with falling in love. Falling in love can grow into love — if you set yourself such a task. A more difficult task is to create love where there was no love in the beginning. Sometimes this is also possible if you manage to create strong relationships, if the soul is healthy and longs for love.

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