What could Cinderella expect from life? Nothing good. Mom died, dad married again, but unsuccessfully. Her stepmother and sisters hated her. It is so insulting to be born into a rich family, but because of someone’s malice to live in beggarly, humiliating conditions! However, no one managed to break the will of “this mess” and shake her faith in herself. How did it happen?
Cinderella understood that her starting conditions were frankly bad. The stepmother compared the girl every day with her daughters, reminding her that she was nobody. In modern terms, daily and hourly killed her self-esteem. I tried to erase from Cinderella’s memory the story of her origin, the memory of her right to a life of wealth and respect.
To do this, she used her stepdaughter as a labor force, turned her own father against her, and allowed her daughters to mock her. And most importantly, she took away her name, thereby trying to deprive her of self-identification – after all, it is with the name that a person’s self-perception begins. But Cinderella knew that she was all right. Life circumstances are to blame. And this is a very important point: the girl was able not to put an “equal” sign between her personality and the situation in which she found herself. And this ultimately led her to victory.
At first, Cinderella decided to come to terms with the situation in which she found herself. I learned to please people not from my family and to dance beautifully. And then she decided that she had the same right to meet the prince as everyone else. Just like in the famous song about the prince: “The sun shines equally on everyone on the planet.”
The fairy does not come to everyone, but Cinderella behaved in such a way that she wanted to help
Upon learning that the prince was looking for a bride, Cinderella did not say to herself: “Who is he and who am I? It’s not for me to compete with the beauties of high society! Despite everything, she appreciated herself quite highly and believed that she was worthy of the prince himself. The girl needed only mere trifles: a carriage, a coachman and a dress for the ball. And life, in the person of the godmother, helped her. The fairy does not come to everyone with an offer of help, but Cinderella behaved in such a way that others wanted to support her.
Do you remember exactly how Cinderella got to the ball? It’s a whole art! She was late, then effectively, confidently swam into the hall, after which she attracted the attention of the king. She danced beautifully, talked nicely with those around her and left the ball ahead of schedule, without letting her interest fade. Having received positive feedback from the sisters, whom she herself treated to treats at the ball, Cinderella asked her godmother to help her get to the ball on the second day.
Now, having repeated all the steps of the first day, she came up with an ingenious move – to lose the shoe. Mind you, not a handbag, scarf or gloves: this is banal. She knew exactly what was most unique about her was the size of her feet. 34 size in an adult girl is a rare phenomenon. In addition, Cinderella secured herself by leaving the second shoe for herself. And the prince, being intrigued, organized a search for the fugitive.
And here the girl planned everything as it should: she calmly waited for the arrival of the prince, urged her to try on the shoe. And as a final, victorious, chord, she extracted her pair from somewhere. So Cinderella came to success, and they lived happily ever after.
Cinderella life hacks to help you find your happiness
- It is necessary even in difficult times to remember who you are;
- Firmly believe that these hard times will someday end;
- And do not believe the humiliating labels that others hang on you;
- It is worth finding in yourself what you like;
- Highlight unique features in your character or appearance – for example, it can be a charming mole or the ability to make others laugh;
- Make a portrait and an idea of the environment of the person you want to meet;
- Develop the qualities, skills and abilities that are necessary to get into such an environment.
And for the sake of success, as you can see, it is not at all necessary to scatter your favorite shoes.
About the Developer
Inessa Zakharyan psychologist, mediator Her