More about this — N.I. Kozlov book for those who like to live.
I explain the picture: If you think that there is a long and confusing path from reality to reaction, you are right. There is a hypothesis that the emotional reaction is determined by a very large number of factors — both external and internal. So. Something happened. Well, for example, you are walking on the street and suddenly notice that there is no mobile phone in your pocket. This is some reality. So you noticed — there is no mobile phone — this is the selection of an event from the general flow. Draw attention to the event.
We noticed, remembered — my mobile phone, in a black leather case, and there are so many phones in it — we remember what else was in the mobile phone and what it was like — this is an approximation.
And the third — entering the situation. You know, they stole it. You. Mobile phone. — It was from you and it was the mobile phone that was stolen.
So, the reality is understood. This is on the one hand.
On the other hand, this is what we were taught and brought up, how we are used to reacting to this or that situation:
Beliefs (for example: this always happens only to me! I am a loser! Or Every day is a new adventure — life does not let me get bored!)
Beliefs (e.g. “I need to pull myself together”, “I need to calm myself down — then maybe I will find a mobile phone — suddenly I just dropped it.)
Expectations are what we usually expect from life. They waited — the day would be happy — and then they took and lost the phone — that’s a shame!
Desires are about the same as expectations, only less strong.
Habits — how you used to react (rush into crying in the middle of the street, kick and punch and shout to return or quickly look around — what if you really dropped it?)
Emotional memory is childhood memories. Well, for example, you were bitten by a dog in your childhood — and now, when someone barks, you begin to feel uncomfortable.
These «refractive lenses» can be grouped according to the positions of perception — depending on which turret a person is used to looking from — such he selects beliefs, expectations, desires, and so on.
If a person is advanced and has passed Sinton, for example, then he still has a lot of utility programs in reserve that help him somehow perceive the situation — the way he wants, and not the way he is used to. Utilities are, for example, rose-colored glasses — when life we deliberately try to see in life the best that it has. Knowledge of perceptual positions, the technique of soul insurance, are convenient utility programs.
So, on the one hand, we have the perception of reality, on the other, the positions of perception.
The collision of reality with the positions of perception — of course, causes a surge of energy, but so far neutral — without a sign, undirected.
This neutral burst of energy is superimposed on the current state. Either the sun is shining, a warm breeze is blowing, streams are murmuring and spring lives in the soul — it seems that the loss of a mobile phone seems like garbage. But it’s another matter — we didn’t get enough sleep at night, there were clouds in the sky, puddles under our feet, and then a mobile phone was stolen … Well, the day didn’t go well …
And so, depending on our mood, the “sign” of emotion is determined and we begin to unwind it in ourselves to the state of emotion.
We spin it in two directions — either in the direction “because they stole it”, or in the direction “in order to find it”.
The second direction is still more capable of influencing reality than the first.
Literature
- N.I. Kozlov «A book for those who like to live or Psychology of personal growth»