Every real woman has to cut down a tree, destroy a house and give birth to a daughter. And the real thing is to believe in fate. After all, everything in this world is not accidental: if I dropped my purse, and a handsome man picked it up, then this is of course the same one! Typical feminine approach to life, right?
Seriously, women with this mindset are not born. They become such in the process of education, when the fantasy world gradually replaces reality.
How are “real women” formed?
First they are taught that they are the center of the world. Adults — they are in order to give gifts to children. Boys — they are in order to admire the girlish beauty. And the girls themselves came into this world to favorably agree to a marriage proposal — of course, after all the treasures of the world are thrown at their feet. So they write in fairy tales, many poems and songs are composed about this. Well, mom and dad are happy to pamper their «princess» and support the correctness of her ideas.
Then the princess comes out of a tender age and quite sincerely, although not realizing it, begins to believe that the whole world order is for her sake. All people lived in order to appear in front of her at some point — the center of the world, the navel of the earth — and play some kind of performance, teach a life lesson.
The universe leads a real woman through life, and every event is given for something: a husband, a scandal, a bad mood. You just need to be careful and study why she has this tantrum, this conflict and this loss. And only when she understands the secret plan of the world that builds everything around her, enlightenment will occur.
Under such a worldview, esoteric literature is very well pulled up. Richard Bach, Paulo Coelho, Carlos Castaneda… Everywhere it is written that the universe arranges a dance around a person in the hope of endowing him with some kind of secret power. And now the woman feels herself superior to others: all people are like people, and I am the mistress of the sea, and I have a goldfish on my parcels.
Saturday morning of a real woman. Reluctance to get up … It’s raining outside. Or maybe it’s a sign? That’s right, a sign! Today you don’t have to go anywhere. You can fall…
What is the advantage of such a worldview?
First, the lack of responsibility. The universe planned everything for me. Life is a series of signs and lessons, the main thing is to recognize them.
Secondly, any inner impulse to do something or not to do something can be explained by a mystical craving or sign. “My legs themselves carried me away from this place, and I realized: I will not enter this university.” “I was walking away from him, all in tears, and then some dog barked at me. I suddenly thought: this is a sign. That’s all, I’ve had enough. We’re breaking up.»
Such harmless brain games turn into a complete distortion of causal relationships. And until life hurts, it is very difficult to explain to such a lady that a branch falls on her head because a strong wind is blowing, and not so that she does not go somewhere. Or — that a beautiful sunset happens just like that, and not so that that night there will be a breakthrough in her relationship.
Is it possible to grow wiser without expecting painful blows from the outside world?
Can. To do this, you just need to remember that nothing around us is happening in order to push us to a certain decision. We always make the decision ourselves.