The primate leader likes to break the distance, breaking into your personal space and subduing you with emotional, and even direct physical impact. At another time and in a different situation, he will turn his back on you, precisely because you are really an empty place for him. The primate leader is only interested in himself, and accordingly he will not respect your need for personal space, nor your interest in him and desire for intimacy.
A civilized leader is disposed towards people and is more often guided not by what he personally wants, but by the requirements of the situation and the expectations of others. But that is precisely why this does not mean at all that he will always be emotionally open, sweet and affable: there are not many situations in life when a leader can afford perfect immediacy.
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The King is always at a distance, always at a distance: distances of time and space. He sees the distance between you and himself, sometime he himself makes this distance, sometime he is ready to overcome it — but the distance always exists. This is not a question of the leader’s personal characteristics and his emotional preferences: if you want it, you want it, and the king, as a leader, is responsible for the result. Hence the need to keep a temporary pause: you always need to figure something out, compare it, and only after that make your royal decision.
«Don’t you see?» Not in this case. The king sees you and your condition, but he sees not only emotions and not only you, his gaze is always wider and farther. He likes you, but you are one of many. Just one of many.
A simple person allows himself to spend most of his life in the zero position of perception, living, acting and feeling according to a template: his life is not always sunny, but simple. The primate leader allows himself the first position, living with all his nature from himself, by himself and for himself: his life is intense, risky, but very natural and often spontaneous.
A civilized leader is responsible for many things and many. A civilized leader bears the obligation to calculate his activity not only from the first and second, but also from the third, and especially from the fourth position of perception — from the point of view of the system and the long-term consequences of each of his actions.
And if the leader is not an ordinary, not a six, but the King and is responsible for things that are truly serious, then inwardly he can allow himself everything except spontaneity.
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