Contents
- Euprepio Padula: “Emotions are like muscles, if one of them doesn’t work well, we have problems”
- Motivation
- The leadership expert publishes the book “Gift of people: the key to success in life” in which he explores the concept of being charismatic and gives advice to have sympathy and empathy with others
Euprepio Padula: “Emotions are like muscles, if one of them doesn’t work well, we have problems”
Motivation
The leadership expert publishes the book “Gift of people: the key to success in life” in which he explores the concept of being charismatic and gives advice to have sympathy and empathy with others
Euprepio Padula it serves, as they say, for a broken and a ripped. This Italian, who has lived in Spain for more than two decades and has a law degree, is a motivational coach, an expert in political and business leadership and a collaborator in numerous media.
After publishing “The Pink Teddy Coaching”, “Believe, Fight, Achieve” and “Thirty Coffees: The Qualities of Leadership”, he now arrives “Gift of people: keys to success in life”, in which Padula, throughout the pages, gives advice to enhance our people skills, and even make it come out if we do not have it.
We met with Euprepio Padula at the headquarters of Padula & Partners, a company of which he is the director, to talk about his new book and, ultimately, how it is to “train” our people skills.
How is it possible to become charismatic people if it does not come as standard?
First of all, make it clear that it is complicated. The first step is to identify whether or not you have charisma, people skills, or empathy. We don’t always know. Afterwards, it is important to learn to listen to others, know how they see you, and when identifying our weak points, work to grow with them. On the other hand, training charisma has to do with training the ability we have to communicate with others. There are many people who are charismatic but they are shy, they are introverted, and you think it is impossible, but it is not. And what these people have to do is work hard on their communication.
Is it important for this to know how to manage our emotions well?
Of course! And not only for this, it is also key to living and being happy, for day to day. Emotions are like the muscles in our body, and if some part doesn’t work right, we have problems. If we do not know how to manage them, there is always something in life that will not work, not only to have people skills, but also training emotions well is vital to have balance and be happy.
So, if we don’t manage our emotions well, our relationship with others …
… It’s going to be very complicated. It is no longer just having a gift for people and being liked by people, it is learning to manage our main emotions to live our day to day life and interact with our friends, with our family or with our partner.
He also talks in the book about the importance of working out of the comfort zone
Yes, but I have a slightly different view of what the comfort zone is. Many people consider that if we do not get out of it, we cannot be happy, and that leaving it is in some way challenging our fear of doing things that are uncomfortable for us. For me, on the other hand, the comfort zone is wonderful, and what we have to do in life is to plan the next stage, and find the next place where we are going to be comfortable. Therefore it is a constant growth. If you stagnate, you give up your goals, your dreams, your objectives.
Don’t we have to conform?
No, unless where we are we are happy. Not everyone is good for everything or to be constantly looking to improve. I always say that in life we are responsible for being the best version of ourselves; is one of the mottos of the book. For this, it is key to have people who can help you, be they bosses, partners, friends, because sometimes it is not enough to know where we can go.
Can perfectionism weigh us down?
It is important to always seek excellence, to do things well, the best we can, but sometimes if obsessive perfectionism leads you to not enjoy things, to never be happy. We are very hard on ourselves. I think it’s okay, but there is nothing worse than being an extremely perfectionist.
He also talks in the book about the importance of being spontaneous, but can’t it make us feel insecure, not have things under control?
You have to be the way you are, not everyone is spontaneous, not everyone is natural, and it is important to be true to yourself. For example, if one day you dress in a quirky way, just because someone has told you that you are going to be better, and that way you do not feel comfortable, you are going to feel ridiculous. So, the most important thing is that, to be as one is and not to pretend anything.
Why is avoiding “emotional vampires” important to our development?
When you develop people skills and know how to manage your emotions, you learn to detect truly toxic people almost automatically. If you do this, you develop an antidote or vaccine against “emotional vampires.” These always feed on the weak, manipulable or more sensitive people. That is why it is important to know our weak points, to get the most out of them.
To conclude, could we say that if we don’t like ourselves, no one will like us?
It is like this, you will never love anyone if you do not love yourself, and that is achieved by overcoming insecurities little by little, from one day to the next you do not become the safest person in the world, it is a constant work. Life is a daily learning and we have to know our defects, the things about ourselves that we do not like, accept them and be generous. Everything we have said in this interview is summarized by saying that, in life, the most complicated thing is to know yourself. And once you get to know yourself, it’s important not to lie to yourself, even though we do it constantly. Knowing each other is the key to getting what we want.