After a conflict, what usually remains is fire and devastation.
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Conflict is not the best option for communication, and if everything has already been said, I want to end the conflict. How? The best place to start is with an apology. It is not obvious that an apology will solve all issues, but if you want to end the conflict, then it is almost always right to start with this — in order to admit your guilt (mistake) and apologize.
What your actions will be your apology to the partner, very much depends on the situation and the expectations of a particular partner. The following currencies are most often paid and accepted:
- words of regret and signs of respect,
- flow of heat, kiss and flower,
- a guilty look and listen to what they say
- with a sigh wallet and pay cash …
«What if I’m not to blame?» “So you have peace of mind. But to apologize — between educated people at the end of the conflict is accepted in any case. As a rule, both are to blame for any conflict, and, therefore, at least a formal apology is due from you in any case. Perhaps you really have nothing to do with it, but even to explain this, it is better to apologize first. Plus, keep in mind that people aren’t always particularly sensible, and in many cases, apologizing is simply cheaper than explaining to wildlife that it’s wrong.
It happens that no apologies are accepted, a person just wants to discharge himself and quarrel with you. Well, don’t insist. You can bow your head and stand guiltily — it will not decrease from you, but emotional release to a person. If the situation is not important to you, you can apologize again and just get out of the situation. We quarreled — and that’s enough. You’re busy.
If the situation is still different and the conflict was obviously your fault, apologies are no longer enough and they are inappropriate. In this situation, you should immediately: admit your guilt, ask for forgiveness, mitigate your guilt … Note — if you really were seriously wrong, you no longer have to apologize, but to ask for forgiveness. This is something else!
Perhaps here it is worth remembering that the conflict had some basis under it, around which everything flared up: the subject of the conflict. If the subject of the conflict can be eliminated, eliminate it without unnecessary showdowns, without questions about justice. You need it — you do it.
And, as a rule, it is very useful to agree on the future: who made what conclusions, what agreements you want to fix so that such conflicts do not arise in the future.