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When to start education? On the one hand, the sooner the better: «For a boy to become a gentleman, his grandfather must be him.» On the other hand, education is such a responsible subject that one can hardly rush here. Rather, it is worth thinking many times before doing something.
What is it really like to raise a child? As in any complex matter, the matter of raising a child has its own approaches and principles, strategies and tactics, methods and techniques. And, as in any complex matter, all this science is not available to the “ordinary user”, or rather, it must be mastered very gradually, from simple to complex.
The first step is educating yourself. The second stage is the management of the child. And only the third stage is the upbringing of children. See →
Methods of education must be selected «under the growth» of parents. While parents are wild, their attempts to raise children usually only lead to negative consequences, and for such parents, if they really want the best for their children (and for themselves), it is better to educate themselves and pester children less. The traditional recommendations “try to understand children”, “talk to children”, “learn to listen to children”, “just be friends with children” are quite reasonable, because they distract such inept parents from the educational process, which they are in fact incapable of, and focus on quite useful things that help both themselves and their children.
So, if you are not a great specialist in raising children, then first take care of self-education and, if possible, do not touch children, do not interfere with their lives. As you progress and the needs of life, gradually move on to more and more active management of children. And when your children become obedient, you can already educate them. And even somehow responsible for the results of their own upbringing.
Types of education, models of education
Speaking about the types of upbringing, first of all they write about such types as indulgent hyperprotection, emotional rejection, dominant hyperprotection, increased moral responsibility, neglect, abuse.
These are the most common 6 types of parenting. A broader list of 10 types are: hypoprotection, dominant overprotection, condoning hyperprotection, condoning hypoprotection, disease cult upbringing, emotional rejection, abuse, increased moral responsibility, conflicting upbringing, and upbringing outside the family. See →
It is quite obvious that these are all types of problem parenting. It’s not what parents choose, it’s something. what troubled parents do. It is often written that these types of problem parenting are opposed by authoritative parenting: a combination of warmth and relatively strict control over the child, but control that is understandable to the child and is carried out clearly and consistently, so that children know what to expect if they violate the rules set by their parents. That is, there are many problematic types of education, but the correct education is one: “authoritative education”. Is it so? Unfortunately, this is not so.
Those (rare) parents who approach education consciously, who think about raising children, who choose, choose their own style and method of education for themselves and for the child, also face a choice. Conscious parenting is not one, but different models of parenting, each of which has its own characteristics, its pros and cons. It is not obvious that strict upbringing cannot be a conscious and once adequate choice, many parents are attracted by the model of natural upbringing with practically no social prohibitions, but even relatively free upbringing with reasonable restrictions can be directed to varying degrees. How will be correct? We can offer our description of the main models of education and our comments. We hope. that our best readers in the world will make theirs. the right choice!
Principles and approaches in raising children
Men and women have their own principles and approaches, in different cultures and traditions, it all depends on the goals of education and the general philosophy of life, plus you should always take into account the characteristics of age. So you need to figure it out! See →
Tactics and methods of education
Tactics and arsenal of methods are predominantly male approach. Women are not inclined to think in this vein, they raise a child primarily with their attitude towards him. However, sometimes thinking like a man is a useful thing. See →
Child: development, education, re-education, management
These are completely different tasks and significantly different methods. Understand what you need, and please do not confuse! See →