Spend special moments with everyone!
Let them enjoy some special moments on their own . Are you organizing a birthday party for one? Send the other one with dad to see a puppet show! One will have really been the king of his party and the other will have spent a unique moment …
Your toddlers need to feel that they are unique! Arrange for them to spend some time alone with their mom and dad during the week. Make sure you keep your commitments and make it a really special time!
Vary the activities according to their differences! Organize, one week, a film session with the eldest, calmer and the following weekend, take the younger, more athletic, for a rollerblading ride!
Short on time ? Rest assured, very little is often enough! In the evening, set up a ritual where everyone tells their day in turn or take them shopping separately.
Namely
It is thanks to these privileged moments in the company of their parents that your little ones have the impression of being loved for themselves. They could almost take the opportunity to love each other peacefully …
You win on all fronts because it is also the ideal opportunity to get closer to each of them.
Value their individuality
Wondering how to treat them fairly? It’s impossible ! Each child has a different personality. Don’t always make them share everything, even if this system makes your life easier! Jealousy then becomes the only way to assert your personality.
Encourage their differences! For example, don’t always dress them the same. Do you find these dungarees handy and would like to kill two birds with one stone? Buy it in red for one and in blue for the other!
Similarly, sign them up for different activities : the eldest in judo, the younger in football!
Stop feeling guilty of injustice when you take care of one and not the other! Don’t be afraid to face their reproaches when you buy pants for the elder one and bring nothing back for the younger one.
It is also not useful to offer a gift to the one whose birthday is not, under the pretext of justice!
Just explain to them that they don’t need the same things at the same time. Each turn !
Do they share the same room? Give everyone a place of their own : posters, soft toys, table and pencils …
Give responsibility to everyone
Responsibilities, okay, but no insurmountable tasks … Avoid asking the elder to be a role model for his younger brother. The younger thinks they have a less important place and feels devalued, while the shoulders of the elder cannot bear such a burden. Jealousies will only be aggravated and conflicts will be stirred up …
Teach them to take responsibility for their siblings and the well-being of the family. Give the elder child the task of accomplishing certain tasks: choosing the newborn’s clothes, feeding him or calming him down when he cries …
Everyone should have responsibilities in the family. The best way to introduce them to life in society!