Natalia Kirillina read for us a book by Eda Le Chan «When Your Child Drives You Crazy».
“This book is for parents who would like to raise their children differently than they were raised themselves. Eda Le Shan, a well-known American psychologist, mother and grandmother, believes that, first of all, free, active and liberated children, such as we were not at their age, drive us crazy. The book deals with situations that can confuse any parent: the child does not want to eat, says “no” to everything, feels fears, is rude, deceives … To solve these problems, you need to look for the causes of their occurrence, the author believes. And for this, adults should often remember their own childhood feelings.
Teach your kids to ask questions and not be afraid of failure before you teach them to count and write.
Eda LeChamp debunks myths that are still prevalent among many of us. For example, the belief that the sooner a child begins to read and count, the better prepared he will be for school. No, she is not against these skills, but first of all she suggests teaching children to ask questions, not be afraid of failures — and just love, appreciate and respect themselves.
The book is easy to read because it is written sincerely, without any professional arrogance. On the contrary, Eda Le Chan constantly refers to her own parental experience, honestly admits her mistakes.
And he encourages parents to take a creative approach to the process of education: not to rely on experts in everything, but to trust themselves, their intuition. The book is of interest not only to parents, but also to specialists — numerous examples from practice, the author’s ability to find a special therapeutic approach, not limiting himself to any school. Eda Le Chan is not afraid to express ideas that are controversial from the point of view of classical psychology — for example, not always be consistent and rational. She is convinced that parents cannot and should not be perfect.
And this position is also very attractive.
The book is written from the position of a parent — sometimes helpless, irritated, but sincerely loving his child. “There are no perfect parents. And none of us can raise a perfect child. But we can get more pleasure from ourselves and our children if we try to learn to understand ourselves and our actions.