Does the first time affect all future ones?

Let’s not argue with the fact that the first experience always affects the subsequent ones, whether it is about sexuality or anything else. It is he, the first, that allows us to evaluate both the attractive and dangerous aspects of a new occupation for us, which then helps to correct, improve, enrich our feelings. Of course, sometimes the first sexual contact becomes a shock — after all, this is our purely intimate territory. And yet it is worth dealing with the stereotype that promises us terrible, indelible consequences, which we supposedly have to deal with for the rest of our lives.

As a rule, we experience our first sexual experience in adolescence. According to psychoanalysis, entering into an intimate life, we rely not so much on the information we have already acquired, but on the relationship patterns learned in early childhood and emerging in our minds at that moment. A teenager experiences a storm of diverse and contradictory feelings: this is the development of a new for him and still fragile position of an adult, and a sense of male (or female) freedom, as well as meeting with another person and in a new way — with himself. Plus, the influence (both beneficial and harmful) of those same relationship patterns learned in childhood and his personal life experience. Our first time contains not only this complex struggle of feelings, but also the desire to experience new sexual sensations, to give freedom to impulses, to discover a new, wonderful side of life and at the same time to know the real insane passion, which is dangerous to try to drown out. Who says it’s easy and simple? For each of us, for the first time, to a greater or lesser extent, it turned out to be an arena for all these internal conflicts, made us believe in ourselves, doubt something or be sad. But is this a reason to consider it fatal or fateful!