Are gentle whispers, exciting words and warm hugs not enough for us, and we have to make screams in order to reach the heights of pleasure? Yes. This is exactly the case when it is difficult to argue with the usual statement.
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According to sexologist Catherine Blanc, it is worth remembering more often that we can not only sigh, but also moan and scream. “Modern voyeuristic society lacks diversity in sexual manifestations,” she is sure.
In fact, only words, gestures and even the most eloquent movements are not enough to fully express emotions. From the first days of life, when our infant cry expressed pain or joy, we accompany with sounds all strong experiences. And enjoyment as well.
“Sexual arousal, like any other tension, requires relaxation,” explains psychoanalyst Svetlana Fedorova. “And discharge occurs according to the principle of coordination of physiological processes: it is a synthesis of emotions, bodily reactions, and voices.”
The growing pleasure gradually spreads to our entire body and transforms the breath into a sound from which waves of bliss radiate, like from a stone that has fallen into the water. And when the sound does not get out, it remains in the body like a lump in the throat or a clamp.
There is no reason to keep everything under control. Silence, groaning, wheezing or screaming – with their own pleasure, everyone agrees as best they can!
But not always the cry is a true manifestation of freedom. Staged screams, like the moans of Meg Ryan’s character in When Harry Met Sally, have nothing to do with real detente. Why do women stage pleasure and suppress their nature?
“It’s easier to hide what we don’t dare to show to others,” explains Svetlana Fedorova. – After all, sex is a spontaneous process, in which partners look and “sound” not very aesthetically pleasing. Some women find it easier to play it safe and show passion than to let go and not know what will happen there. Not allowing themselves to experience excitement, they build a sexual act not for physiological, but for narcissistic pleasure: it is important for them to please a man and look in his eyes as a satisfied woman.
The sound that indicates that we are truly relaxed and feeling aroused has nothing to do with campy moans. Rather, it is similar to the “kiai” cry in Japanese martial arts: it is the release of accumulated energy. But for it to sound, it is necessary that the orgasm really approaches – otherwise any screams will be ridiculous and artificial.
But what about men? It turns out that they are deprived of such self-expression, because society requires more emotional restraint from them than from women.
“Of course, those men who, contrary to their assurances, feel shame or fear of complete self-forgetfulness, can forbid themselves such manifestations of sensual delight,” Catherine Blanc assures. “But I don’t see any reason to keep everything under control. Silence, groaning, wheezing or screaming – with their own pleasure, everyone agrees as best they can!