What could psychologists prescribe to a couple whose passion has faded in order, and enough disagreements and mutual dissatisfaction have accumulated over the years of living together? At the very least, kiss more often. This simple method not only helps to “pat up” the relationship, but also seems to prolong life. About how, family therapists Linda and Charlie Bloom tell.
Back in the 1980s, German psychologists found that husbands who kiss their wives before going to work live an average of five years longer than men who don’t. Such a seemingly frivolous conclusion was made on the basis of a serious analysis of data provided by insurance companies and a survey of several dozen doctors and psychologists who worked in the social insurance system, as well as 110 top managers of large German companies.
In addition to the fact that the “duty” morning kiss adds years to men’s lives, it also, as it turned out, helps them earn 20-36% more and take sick leave less often. And, obviously, to move up the career ladder too: of the 110 top managers of German companies, 87% have this great habit.
“Those husbands who leave the house without kissing their wife do so because they may have had an argument the day before,” said study author Dr. Arthur Szabo, professor of psychology at the University of Kiel. — Or because even before that they had already begun to move away from each other a long time ago. In any case, such a man starts his day with negative emotions.
It is very possible that he leaves the house already in a bad mood. Many husbands (unfortunately!) will tell you that they have lost interest in their wives or are indifferent to them.
But such men deceive themselves. Even if a man has stopped loving his wife, he is still very influenced by how she treats him.
A husband who kisses his wife before leaving for work starts his day with a positive event and positive emotions. His sense of harmony is conveyed both psychologically and mentally.”
As nerve impulses travel from the lips to the tongue, facial muscles, and skin, the body is filled with a veritable «love cocktail» made with neurotransmitters and hormones: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, adrenaline, and endorphins.
Their deficiency directly affects our states: when we are sad, the body experiences a lack of serotonin, and when it seems to us that loved ones have moved away from us, there is a deficiency of oxytocin. And you can make up for the lack of these hormones, as they say, for free!
A kiss can replace words and convey many feelings at the same time: admiration, trust, support and adoration.
I approach each couple and encourage them to work on the issues they care about. If romance has left the relationship, you should try to work on the reasons. Learn to communicate correctly with each other, ask for forgiveness if you have offended, forgive if you have offended you. These simple methods pave the way for trust and affection—and if you bring them back, romance and love will return.
Everything works together: dates, adventures, and new experiences. They return relationships to the zone in which they began — the area of uXNUMXbuXNUMXbpleasure and joy. If you add to all this the natural pleasure that nature itself gave us — a passionate kiss, your relationship will be even more firmly entrenched in this zone of joy and will not cross its borders.
Kissing Therapy is able to restore the ingredients of a relationship that have been lost due to painful arguments, disunity, or overworking and caring for children. You need to remind yourself that your kiss with a husband or wife should not lose sensuality. Don’t forget about it, it will bring back admiration and love in the relationship. Such a sensual kiss is a sign that you have made a new start to a wonderful partnership or continue a relationship that has attention and care.
A kiss is a special communication. He alone can replace words and convey many feelings at the same time: admiration, trust, support, affection, security and even adoration.
Kiss «good morning, darling» and kiss «good night, my dear.» Kiss-meeting and kiss-parting, kisses during sex and juicy long kisses — just for the sake of kisses, damn it! All of them are equally beautiful.
And when it comes to kissing, more is always better! Kissing can not only restore our emotional well-being and physical health, they can extend our lives.