It is generally accepted that the right way to a woman’s heart is to compliment her more often. Or maybe the secret is not at all in pleasant words, but in the timbre of the man’s voice? Or is it just one gender stereotype?
Exciting timbre, unforgettable melody of speech … The voice reflects the energy and temperament of the speaker and has great erotic potential. But is it true that this is an exclusively female preference and that for men the timbre, voice modulations are not so significant? “It is known that women’s hearing is more developed,” notes sexologist Irina Panyukova, “they catch more shades in the voice and determine the state of mind of another by intonation more accurately than men.
But each of us, regardless of gender, has a dominant perceptual system: visual, auditory, kinesthetic. For one, visual images are important, the other is sensitive to sounds, the third is guided by tactile sensations.
Or maybe women do not like the voice itself, but affectionate words and fascinating stories? A series of experiments conducted by American psychologists have shown that women do choose bright storytellers as long-term partners. One explanation is that a man who can tell a compelling story is more likely to gain the authority of others and gain access to resources.
Mutual attraction will remain a miracle, even if it can be described using the theory of probability.
And Polish researchers, after analyzing the choice of a partner in speed dating, came to a different conclusion: both men and women preferred physically attractive applicants to those who demonstrated high intelligence. True, there was no talk of a long-term relationship. In addition, on the Internet you can find the results of various studies that show that women are turned on not by appearance, but by smell, smile, manners and all this together or … none of this.
Where did the statement about “love with the ears” come from? “Like other binary oppositions (“smart-beautiful”, “rational-emotional”), this cultural stereotype reinforces the division of gender roles in a society with polar thinking, says clinical psychologist Yulia Lapina. — The word, speech as an expression of action, an active position is considered the social capital of men. External attractiveness is passive and is considered the social capital of a woman.
The feeling arises when the readiness to experience the adventure ripens.
Relatively speaking, the task of a man is to conquer, and the task of a woman is to be pleasing to the eye. Of course, today, when the world is heterogeneous, and cultural and gender boundaries are blurred, there is no clear distribution of roles anymore.”
Mankind has been trying to derive a formula for attractiveness for more than a thousand years. “But the feeling is not at all caused by someone from the outside, this is a delusion,” Irina Panyukova is convinced. “It occurs when our willingness to experience adventure matures.” And as much as we would like to know exactly what to do to please him or her, “mutual attraction continues to be a miracle and will not cease to be, even if one day all human interactions can be described using the law of random numbers and theory probability,” concludes Yulia Lapina.