“This is a delusion,” says French psychoanalyst and sexologist Catherine Blanc. — Despite the flow of information about sexual life, we are still in captivity of stereotypes. The inability of men to feign feelings is one of them.”
Due to the fact that in men the genitals are visible, women often think that the mechanism of the male orgasm is absolutely clear. First there is an erection, then ejaculation (ejaculation) and sexual discharge. But how easy are they? An erection depends not only on the degree of arousal, but ejaculation and a full-fledged orgasm are not the same thing.
It is not easy to experience pleasure, just as it is not easy to emotionally surrender to a partner (she), to allow feelings to take possession of our entire being. The peak of pleasure comes when both take and give. We go towards each other, overcoming shyness, self-doubt and guilt, conscious and unconscious barriers.
Why should it be easier for men to achieve pleasure than for women? What lies behind the confusion of the two concepts of «ejaculation» and «pleasure»? Belief in male omnipotence — while everything is confusing and complicated for women? Or is it just more calm for women to think this way, because they want to see this as confirmation of their power over men? It’s so nice to realize that, having succumbed to the charms of a partner, a man is simply not able to feign passion in her arms! However, it is necessary to understand that a man’s orgasm, as well as a woman’s orgasm, depends on what place in our soul we assign to our partner, whether we can completely liberate ourselves at the moment of intimacy. Therefore, pleasure is not achieved with any sexual act. Therefore, a man quite consciously can simulate it (groans, imitates convulsions, changes his facial expression …), hiding the fact that ejaculation did not occur or did not find an emotional response in him. For him, this is a convenient way to delicately protect himself and relieve tension. At the same time, a man seeks to reward and reassure his partner in this way.